Im 18 years old and my dad was the cosigner on my car. I lost my job and couldn't pay the payments. he took the car away from me and hid it. I have things I need to do like aply for jobs and go to the store for nessasary things and he won't let me even borry the car and he refuses to take me. He insists that i follow childish rules like having a ten o'clock curfue, and go to church in order to get my car back on his terms. I don't think I can handle this anymore what do I do???!!!!
2006-12-25 12:46:45 · 9 answers · asked by kandi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi! I am old enough to be your grandmother but here goes anyway.... Play his games, go to church, keep a curfew, be pleasant, polite and so forth....... I remember when I was 18, I had a similar situation. I was going away to college and asked my dad for my college money from the bank, he said he had bought a tractor with the money, so I angrily stormed out with not one penny. I worked three jobs to put myself through school. You can handle it. Keep cool and play the game until he allows you to have your car to find another job. Honey, I would never want anyone to go through what I did. You can do it! Get a good job and save money until you can got to college or tech school. If that is not what you want to do, just do what he asked you to do, find a job and save your money. Put it in the bank in a savings account with just your name until the time is right for you to marry or make it on your own. I wish you good luck!
2006-12-25 13:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by honeyinmidga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a no brainer. You lost your job, was probably running around late at night with the car.
Your dad had every right to take the car, he is responsible for the payments when you can't make them. Other wise his credit rating will suffer.
Wake up and meet the real world, do what he asks of you with respect to a curfue and church.
You are still living under his roof, even if you are 18, he's paying for the food that's going into your mouth and since he bought the house, maintains it, it's his right to control what happens in on or around his house.
The rules he's laid down are not unreasonable and you should respect them by following the rules.
If you can't handle it, then get out and walk or take the bus if available to find another job, get a few paychecks saved up then go get your own place.
But for the time being you are stuck. Just show some respect for your dad. He's being reasonable under the circumstances and isn't the Jackass you think he is.
I've done the same thing with my kids, and they don't whine like you are whining now. When they have to come home to live because they been layed off from their job, they automatically realize the rules they followed before they moved out still apply if i'm paying their bills for them.
2006-12-25 21:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your car back then I would do as your father has asked. Coming in at 10pm and going to church is not that bad is it. Since you have no job and will be with out a paycheck staying out past 10 seems unlikely since you will have no money soon.
Since your father co-signed for the car he has some say in it. I am assuming since he took the car he is making the payments on it until you can start again.
LET HIM. or you might lose the car.
Your father is not trying to be controlling he is trying to save his credit rate. If you can not pay the car note then the dealer will take it back and that will go on his credit report along with yours and he probably does not want that to happen.
If I were you I would follow his rules, YOU DO LIVE IN HIS HOUSE, so you can have use of the car.
Good Luck
2006-12-25 21:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are living in his house you have to follow his rules. I would recommend you take public transportation to look for a job as quickly as possible, save as much money as you can and move out. The other thing I would do is proof read your question and correct all of the spelling and grammar mistakes if you plan to get a job that pays well.
2006-12-25 21:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a mistake for young people to stay home after high school. Join the military or go to college and get your own life out of their control.
2006-12-25 21:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your job and bide your time, then when you have enough to buy the car and pay for it for at least three years, buy one of your own.
Make sure you don't get into debts like that again, they leech out of you like, well, leeches!
2006-12-25 21:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mystikdancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out on your own,hitchhike to work,buy your own car
2006-12-25 21:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by country_gal1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself.
2006-12-25 21:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go and steal the car... dont walk.. thats just dumb... its your father.
2006-12-25 21:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany K 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋