I have 3 brothers. My brother "T" is married to a rude woman. She never liked me but she loves my brother "D". All of us were exchanging gifts at her house today. My sister-in-law gave "D" and I the same thing , a shirt. She gave it to me by dropping it on the floor in front of me and said "Heres your present" and turned her back on me. Then she handed my brother "D" his gift and said "I hope you like it. It took a long time to find the color you like." No one noticed what happened but me. I was stunned. I left the gift behind when I went home as if I forgot to take it with me.. It still bothers me. What would you have done?
2006-12-25 12:35:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All good answers. Thank you, my friends. Thumbs up to all and to all a good night.
2006-12-25 12:59:22 · update #1
I'll bet you were having a good time at the party until that happened. And I bet you wanted to stay and be with the rest of your family. I know that's why you just let it go. You love your brother and he must be kinda soft if he lets her do things like that to his family. So your doing what took a long time to learn. You just let it go.There is no point in saying what everyone must know by now. She isn't worth wasting your breath. But you must never take that shirt. EVER.
2006-12-25 20:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
How wonderful that you were able to remain calm and not ruin everyone else's day. I think you definately did the right thing by not taking it home. I hope that all of us giving you an "atta boy" has helped with your feelings. Try not to let it bother you (easier said than done, I know) but you did the right thing. I wouldn't even mention it unless your brother asks and then be tactful when you tell him what had occurred. Tell him that his wife obviously does not like you and ask him if he knows why. If his wife ever says anything, again be tactful when you ask her what her problem is with you. Go from there when you find the answer. Good luck and I hope you have a quiet sleep and wake refreshed in the morning.
2006-12-25 13:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Oh my she certainly isnt a very nice little girl is she? I think she reminds me of a small child brat child who doesnt get everything her way and then has a little tantrum. She obviously has no respect for you as a human being. I would tell your brother that you are completely insulted by her and will not be attending any more get togethers if she is around. You should invite your bro out for a night out - and get home late just to piss her off. Next year if you do get together for a holiday - buy her a book - Chicken soup for the womans soul - Its a great book but she is so ignorant she will be utterly insulted. Hey what goes around comes around. You seem very nice. Its that bitchs loss of a sweet bro in law. Be there for your bro. ignore that ignorant self centered little witch!
2006-12-25 12:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Gabs 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I honestly feel, standing up for ones self-moral, is important.. There is no need to be rude (depending on who ones dealing with. If its a person from the street, I'll drop the talkin and b straight up real with him, but if its not a stranger, someone with some more societal class and reasoning, (which i'd assume is ur case) ill have said, and not as high class soudning as this but to get my point the f*ck across...Excuse me, (whatever her name is) (loud and clear) I didnt give you any reason for throwing the shirt on the floor, and I didnt disrespect you in any way for u to come at me like this. but Do me a favor and watch how u come off, cuz its aint phuckin warm and im not accepting it... ..Becasue its ur brothers wife still talk to her with reason but make sure she understands in the end, say it even, do u undersand?? And then soon after leave becasue the welcome will have been dried out... dont let it look like ur leaving cuz ur hurt but leave cuz wat she did isnt fly and theres no need for u to be there wit such a b*Tchhhh ..also talk to ur brother about it, and give a warning on how she is and things r and ur not going to slap her but u will b blatently honest about it with her
i hope it helps and im sry for that "inconvenience" bro
2006-12-25 14:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by ProudSouthLatin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thrown her present at the floor too!!!
jaja!!
No but really, you should have not even bothered picking it up from the floor. Left it exactly where she threw it at, and when you were asked why you left your gift, you could respond, "i left it exactly where she threw it".
I guess the "mature" thing to do here would be to confront this woman calmy. Ask her if she has an issue with you, and bring it to her attention what she did.
*shrugs*
Good Luck!
2006-12-25 12:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by miz_kamakazi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The spirit of Christmas is all about giving, and unfortunately your sister-in-law doesn't have a clue. I am sorry that she ruined your day, however don't let her ruin the rest of your day by worrying about it. So she's rude? So are many other people, and the best thing to do is just ignore them and the rudeness. Don't lower yourself to her level by being rude back to her. I would be even nicer to her with each new rude thing that she does. It's hard to be rude to people who are genuinely nice to you all the time.
2006-12-25 12:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she has no clue as to what Family or Christmas means. I would have smiled at her and said "Ahhh a gift given with LOVE... " turned to look at everyone else because even if you don't think people notice.. they do.. and your brother"T" should have noticed how disdainfully she treated you. Please give yourself a break and talk to "T" to let him know you appreciated the gift but how hurt you feel by your sister in laws disgraceful manner....
Hope you managed to have a good holiday with the rest of your family.
2006-12-25 12:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by thebe_gl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you did was the thing the bigger man would do. you could have done the equally rude thing to her, hand it/toss it back to her and tell her you don't want a gift from her if it pains her so much to be remotely polite and put aside her dislike for the day. If she or your brother calls to say you left it there you can tell her/him the reason you left it there and it would probably be best for them to return it.
2006-12-25 12:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Very rude indeed. I wouldn't have picked it up at all. Good you left it behind. Bravo!!!!
Tell your bro though what happened in a matter- of- fact manner. Just make him aware that something is very wrong with her. Blood is thicker than .... you know how the saying goes- unless your bro and you don't have a good relationship either. In that case- tell somebody else, who will eventually tell him what happened and how you felt about it.
2006-12-25 13:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If and/or when she lets you know you "forgot" your gift, I would simply say..., I am sorry, I thought that from the way you gave it to me, you did not really want me to have so, I simply left it behind rather than cause a scene and spoil Christmas for everyone else.
2006-12-25 12:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by sawftandtender 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋