We try to treat both sides of the family equal, but its always, why did one get a mug and the other a mouse pad? like with our kids pictures... everyone is so greedy... i think......And then they have ruin everyones holiday? I just dont get it.... And then they dont have the guts to call, instead they send email. Id like to call it grandparent rivalry. sorry to bore everyone... but i needed to get this off my chest... i hope everyone had a better holiday than we did..... merry christmas@
2006-12-25 12:35:07 · 11 answers · asked by michaellandonsmommy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
or maybe its just jealousy
2006-12-25 12:37:13 · update #1
Feel the love. Unfortunately you are in the same situation as a lot of others, myself included.
My wife, our son and I did not want to drive 2 hours to see her parents for Christmas this year. So we called last night and said we were not coming to their MANDATORY christmas party. My wife's sister said the same thing, too. Had enough of those boring parties.
So my wife's mother calls us CHRISTMAS MORNING and tells us that their father had to be taken to the hospital, because of a broken heart, by ambulance, because his children don't love him any more (they don't; bad and evil man). 1 hour later, he was back home, because we STILL did not come to visit them, even at the hospital. Now he is furious with everyone.
You have to decide; your sanity, or let them all suck you into that black hole of mind games. We decided to say to hell with all of them!!
Hope this helps.
2006-12-25 12:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Every family has a little bit of everything in them.Other than that it was knowing everyone was alive and well so there's a lot to be thankful for. And no you didn't bore me. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
2006-12-25 12:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by tagara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 08:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well merry christmas to you too!!! anyway i think what you need to do right now while its still fresh in their mind you need to EMAIL them and tell them due to the UNmerry christmas (you can nice it up) you had , next year youre not going to be joining either family, then you can say either youre going to host it at your house and NO negativity allowed, or just tell them youre going to keep it to your immediate family only because of their childish behavior and dont give them gifts or give them exactly the same thing! if you dont tell them flat out i promise you they will both walk away believing they are the "victim" good luck and like i said "merry xmas"
2006-12-25 12:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you spend an equal amount of money on them & if they don't like what you've given them, they can return it. Or you might consider giving them all the same thing. Or celebrate Xmas with your side of the family one day & your husband's on another day (thats what my family did) & that would eliminate the problem altogether. Isn't it too bad that they can't be appreciative? or have the manners to at least pretend they were happy with their gifts like most people?
2006-12-25 12:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop---get the whole picture---there is nothing you can do about everyone being the way they are. If you know the difference, then don't be like them---do your own thing. Call and thank anyone who gave you a present...be nice and then forget about it all. You're alive, healthy and will soon be old enough to move out and do your own thing. You don't have to be like everyone else in the family--there is no law that says you have to be that silly...do your own thing and do it properly.
2006-12-25 12:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG I KNOW how you feel really. My mother is totally narcisstic and has never met my daughter. Then my father who I thought adored my daughter. He actually chaged for a while after she was born. My father has some really weird personality traits, loves to live in the past, minipulate, stopped working at age 40 due to physcial and emotional problems and love people to feel sorry for him...
Anyway, he has been staying with his SIL and her family... They are totally disfunctional. He really likes cousin who is alsos uppose to be disabled but bought a cell phone this month wwith his welfare money but didn't send hhis kids anythings. Kids he hasn't seen in years....
But anyway, he spent Thanksgiving with them and assured me that he would be her on Christmas. Anyway, I was suppose to pick him up on Saturday. Then Saturday night he changed it to Sunday. Then he called on Sunday asking me if he could make it later. I am tired of him trying to get his way and minipulate me.
Sorry I guess I am venting.. :-)
2006-12-25 14:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more I read this stuff the more I become convinced that a lot of people in the older stages of life literally start to lose their minds, their sensibilities. It's just not normal behavior. I congratulate you for standing up for your own life and not spending useless time with insane people.
2006-12-25 12:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes all i do is live with it its the only thing u can do right hope your holidays arnt as bad as i had i had to choose mom or the rest my family
2006-12-25 12:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont have that prob., but lots of ppl do
im very sorry ur holidays were ruined
2006-12-25 12:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by penman11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋