Would you break up with the person so that maybe he/she can find someone else who is ready to commit? Would you keep dating that person but remain uncertain of your future together? Would you promise to marry that person after a length of time had passed?
2006-12-25 12:25:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you both are really in love then this shouldnt be an issue. If they are ready to get married and you are not doesn't mean you are obligated to promise to marry them by a certain time because marriage should only happen between two ppl who are both ready to be committed to each other forever. Both parties should communicate their views and feelings on the situation so that there are no unasked questions in the relationship and make a joint decision.
If you both are really in love then marriage can wait until you both are ready and the other party will be willing to wait as long as they have to for you to be ready. Just sit down and talk to each other, be completely honest and make a decision together.
2006-12-25 12:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, I would never marry someone I wasn't absolutely, positivly, without-a-doubt ready to marry. It can only end in disaster otherwise!!! If you get married before you're really ready, you're going to have regrets, second thoughts, anger, and guilt hanging over your head (because technically you lied to your partner--think about how your partner would feel if you got married and come to find out, you weren't ready in the first place. I know I would feel very sad and upset). I think marriage is taken WAY too lightly these days (look at the divorce rate in this country for crying out loud!). When you get married, you vow to be with that person FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. If you're not ready for that sort of commitment, you NEED to communicate that to your partner. You both will be saved a lot of heart-ache.
2006-12-25 21:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of getting married? Is it really that important to have a legal document stating that you're a couple? Marriage isn't a neccessary part of life. You don't need it to live together, to cherish each other, to have children, to be happy - and plus, if you ever decide it's not working out, it's a lot easier to part ways if you aren't legally binded. I say convince that person to leave the law out of your relationship and focus on what's most important - each other. And if they're still not satisfied then there are commitment ceremonies you can do that don't legally bind you.
Note: You don't have to be a gay or lesbian couple to have a commitment ceremony.
2006-12-25 20:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty8604 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would promise to marry that person after a length of time had passed. That would give me time to re-evaluate my reasons for not being ready.
2006-12-25 20:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, i think i'll tell that person that i don't want to marry right now, and ask that person if it is ok for him/her.and i will keep our relationship together until i am ready. and i would promise i will marry that person after a length of time had passed.
2006-12-25 20:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by deer8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the reason you were not ready is because you have not found the right person but now that you have found the right person maybe now you are ready to get married.
2006-12-25 20:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i whould still date that person and just wait tell you are comfortable marrying each other
2006-12-25 20:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by valreemariecreed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋