OK long story short. I'm 31, never been in a relationship with a woman, never had sex, been kissed or even held hands. I turned 31 a few weeks ago, and even though I have gone through my life single and independent, I get lonely sometimes. I feel like I need casual friends and a girlfriend in my life, but it seems like women around my age want a commitment and marriage/kids soon, something which I am not sure I can handle. I am not sure who or what I like, and would feel guilty if I dated a woman and had to break up with her because she wasn't the one.
I just want to date around and have fun, not necessarily date many women
2006-12-25 12:19:31 · 15 answers · asked by cubensis2k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ooooo its that 'biological clock' thing...the babies must be made now!!. Youre 31 now...let's say you meet some one and date for a year. get married and wait 1 year for a baby(good luck with that) youre 32-33 when the lil nipper arrives. 54 by the time you can get them into college or at least out of the house. Imagine it as emotionally drowning and you are a life preserver. Super glue isn't as clingy as a clock-woman. You sound as though you need to make it clear from the beginning that you are not ready for childern. If it appears that waiting presents a problem...run away. There has to be a woman somewhere that isnt determined to join at the hip someplace. You'l find one somewhere. 'til then enjoy the hunt.
2006-12-25 12:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by vaughndhume 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely need to just date girls on a casual basis. You can't just jump in feet first. Well, you can but I don't advise it. I've had a few different b/f's and I never thought about getting serious until we had dated awhile and really got to know one another. I commend you on your independance. You can be lonely and still in a relationship though, I feel I should warn you about that. I'm married and feel lonely all the time. You need to start by having a girl that you like and taking it S-L-O-W-L-Y. Conversation, touching, kissing....and then see where that leads. Good Luck with your future.
2006-12-25 12:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you spend enough time with one women, maybe two years then you should know. I would tell the woman up front that you are going to take your time. That means she doesn't move into your home, etc. You date for 2 years. Then you'll know. And sign a pre-nup if it does come to marriage. That way she can only claim what was established during the marriage and that's how it should be.
2016-05-23 06:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into commitment. I'm my boyfriends first everything and I'm not sure it can be long-term because he doesn't have the trial-and-error knowledge that someone who has dated before would have. He likes the companionship and the sex, but I want a life partner and so we are incompatible and it makes me sad. But he's oblivious because he's never been with anyone.
The complexity of another person needing him for emotional reasons is something new, and I don't think he likes it.
2006-12-25 12:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope i can relate but its the same in my opinon, im the same way, 21, never kissed, sex, none of those relationship things, i was also getting lonely, so i got a girlfriend and we are now adapting to each other, she knows my backround so since she really want things to workout, she is gonna help me with things, it all comes with time my friend, just start making friends, let your friends introduce you, in no time soon you will be in a meaningful commited relationship.........good luck
2006-12-25 12:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by future millionaire...im humble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pick one and date her. If all goes well, marry her in about two years. Don't rush it, because the wrong woman will ruin your life. At the same time, don't stall unnecessarily because you might scare women away. Good luck!
2006-12-25 12:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, and I guess you should be okay. But ultimately, the purpose for dating should be seeing who is suitable for marriage. If you know for certain that you don't want to get married, it's probably better to not go out when it comes right down to it - especially at your age.
2006-12-25 12:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could check the ads for meeting people to date on the computer, from the newspaper see whether single groups are advertised. going the single groups way might be best for you. nobody needs to get really serious if they don't want to. you could meet people there that would understand you. it seems as though you could meet friends as well as women that way. best of luck
2006-12-25 12:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to jump in. Just be careful that the chick won't try to own you. They have a bad habit of trying to take over a guys life. If you feel that the "relationship" is too *ONE WAY*, remember, you still have the option to get out. Enjoy all the free nookie!
2006-12-25 12:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you shouldn't. You should be with a girl whom you're comfortable with. But, in your age, the purpose of dating someone is not to having fun, but to have serious relationship.
2006-12-25 12:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by fathya_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋