Is home schooling still a good thing if......?

Question

Is it still a good idea to keep a child home schooled even if they completely hate it and want to go to public or private school?

Answer 1

I cant believe how many of you say no if he doesn't want to do it then let him do what he wants to. Would you be saying that if he were saying my child hates school should i let him drop out...NO...Too many people think that children should be able to make these decisions if it suits what the adult thinks but then if the child wants to decide on something that the adult doesn't agree with then they say no children shouldn't make these decisions, its double standards...children should have an input yes, but the final decision should be that of the parents (we do, or should, know whats best for our children), if he doesn't like it then try a different approach, ask him what it is he doesn't like about it, compromise, he may want to go to public school to do his music studies or to be in a sporting team and do the rest via home school. Talk to your child...p.s. there is no way that Chris is 14, i didn't come down in the last shower.

Answer 2

I would say if your child wants to go to public/private school then they should. However, it depends on the reason they are being home schooled in the first place. If they are being home schooled due to behavioral issues perhaps you can tell them this is there last chance or they will be home schooled until they graduate high school. Or if it was just something you wanted them to try and they do not like it then let them go back. If there are just a few classes that you pulled them out for see if they can take the other classes at public/private school and the ones they need help/more time/ect. at home. Schools should be willing to let children go home early/come in late if they are taking classes elsewhere. They do it when students take courses at colleges for high school and college credit. At least they did when I was in school and it was fairly new when I entered high school. I believe it started when I was in high school so it should still be done. Unless it is restricted to certain areas. Hope this helps. One last suggestion is to have you and your child list the pros and cons of going back to public/private school. And then discuss the concerns with one another. This way you know where they are coming from and they understand your concerns.

Answer 3

Homeschooling is a good thing, if it works for your child. I was homeschooled for a few years because I was very sick as a child. I then went to a private school for grades eight to twelve because the classes I wanted to take could not be taught at home. When I was homeschooled it was easy to get bored, so my mom found a homeschool group in our town that did field trips and went places together to hang out. Find out why your child hates it, tell them why you want to do it and have faith that you and your child will be able to come up with the best choice for them. Never simply say that they will be homeschooled because you are the parent and know whats best for them because until they tell you how they feel you don't know if you a meeting all of their needs that perhaps public school would take care of, and this will cause them to hate school and no parent wants that. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I'm homeschooled,and i'm a mess right now. Hence why i'm browsing on Y!A.

Between not being intellectually crippled,and not getting enough social interaction with my peers,all because I did homeschooling,recently i've started to be a bit up myself,and look at everyone as..Put bluntly,stupid. Yeah,i've turned into a negative person.

Many times I wish I had gone to school to be normal,like everyone else. To be happy. I don't know what my problem is,but somehow,even though i've so often blamed homeschooling,I think the freedom i've had will help me through whatever my real problem is. That's what I think is the greatest quality of the way i've been educated is. Freedom. The greatest factor,but not neccessarily an upside. Simply something that sets me apart,for better or worse. The freedom to be my own person,and meet whatever potential I have,and to make my own mistakes. To experience ups and downs early on. Maybe I should take comfort in that. Maybe.

Anyway,i've started ranting and going on a bit now. I'm only 14,so I'm sure i'll turn out fine in the end. As for your question.. As others have said,your child needs to have a choice,or he/she will resent you. You need to encourage your child to pursue whatever path she is keen to take,trusting he/she has some,just some idea, of what he/she is doing. If your kid really wants to try a public or private school,he/she should have that opportunity.

I definitely wasn't as helpful as many of the other answers.(The one two up from me in particular. Give that answer a thumbs up.)But I enjoyed typing this up knowing someone may read it. (Sort of an ego boost which I need, or at least,I feel I do.) Hopefully i've added a new perspective that can be of some use to you.

~Chris

PS.I'm more overweight than I look in my avatar. :P

PPS. I hope my enemies don't find this info and use it to their advantage. >.>

Answer 5

I think if a child hated homeschooling then it will make your teaching him difficult on you and his learning will also be affected because he will be homeschooled grudgingly.

Now the important question is why does the kid want to go to school. If it's to participate in activities you don't agree with, then I'd say sorry bucko, you're staying home. If he just wanted to see what outside school was like his only other option would be a private school.

Also, never be afraid to search yourself and see if there are improvements you can make in your teaching style. Ask your child what changes they'd like to see take place as far as homeschooling goes.

I would lay the law down before he goes back to school and let him know that just because he's not schooled at home, he STILL has to abide by your rules and regulations.

Answer 6

you should sit down with your child and discuss the reasons why he hates it. make a verbal commitment to do what is best for that specific child. then, after all feelings, ideas, and reasons are out on the table, evaluated what is accurate or valid. your conclusion will in part depend on why the child hates homeschooling. if it is because he hates doing video school, perhaps you should change the method to a co-op. or if he hates the curriculum, choose another more suited. consider getting a tutor for specialized subjects. since you are home schooling, understand the freedom and creativity that you are able to have, and utilize this to the fullest. think outside the box or the desk as the case may be.

Answer 7

I had to deal with this situation in my home with my brother. He DETESTED being homeschooled, while I enjoyed it. The difference was, when I had 'bad school days'...I got over it, and never really wanted to go to public school. But my brother hated it so much that it hurt his relationship with my mother. My Father and Mother decided to go ahead and let him go to public school. Now, I am not saying that my brother wasn't able to be social when he was H/S'd, but he just didn't want to do it anymore. It was really stressing my Mother out. In the end, to preserve their relationship, his going to school was probably better off for my Mother. He will always be himself and I can honestly say that neither public school or home school was what gave him the attitude he has now.

***LET ME ASSURE EVERYONE*** Homeschooling is not easy, and for anyone to say that the reasons behind homeschooling are purely selfish is a severe misunderstanding of the situation. If anything, Homeschooling requires more from the parents (why do you think so many DON'T want to do it?) and it's even more of a sacrifice.

In this case, if homeschooling is becoming a daily stress, and is really starting to hurt your relationship with your child, don't feel guilty (which some parents sometimes feel) or that you've failed. Hey, homeschooling may just not be for your kid, or for at this time. It's season may be over. It doesn't mean that homeschooling was a bad choice in the beginning, but it may not be right for your family anymore. Don't let any other homeschoolers tell you that you are failing by putting your kid back in public school, and don't let anyone else tell you that you were stupid to homeschool in the first place. You and your spouse do what you feel is right for your child, talk to your kid, and in the end, it is YOUR decision.

Answer 8

This is a big huge decision that affects your entire family, as well as your child's future.

I've hs'ed for 9 years now and have met MANY other hs'ers in several states, and what I've found about kids who 'hate' being homeschooled are...
--Some kids hate working and would hate going to school, too.
--One of the two most common issues seems to be that the child is bored and lonely. I am living in a very isolated area and have about run myself to death providing activities for my 2 kids. It's rough! But they are happy and busy, and we will not be stuck in this place forever. I know other hs moms who are not willing to do much - but your kids are not home forever, so even if you are running yourself to death, it is not a permanent situation.
--Some kids hate hsing because they do not have a good relationship with their family. You need to be THE MOST FUN person your kid knows; spend a few weeks really concentrating on getting to know your child and helping him feel special and loved, then see if he still wants to go back to school.

Answer 9

It depends on the reasons that you choose to homeschool, the quality of the school you can afford to allow them to go to, and why they hate it. If your reasons for homeschooling are strong or the schools around you are poor then I would compare this question things like "my child hates school and wants to quit should I let them?" "my child wants to not have a curfew but I think _o'clock is more appropriate should I let them?" "my child is dating a boy who I think is moving too fast or is the wrong kind of influence but his family has invited her out of town with them. I don't think it is a good idea but should I let her go?'

Sometimes we as parents know what is best for our children. That being said, why do they want to go to public school? Is there a compromise you could make to add social activities or change curriculum, change the schedule up to where if your child works a little longer 3 days they could have one day they only work a 1/2 day one day and have a day off each week. Is there something else they are interested in you could incorporate to your lessons?

Look hard at yourself, is it really working? How do you feel about homeschooling? Does it still work for you?

From there it is up to you. Good luck. Merry Christmas!

Answer 10

I am homeschooled and love it, and a previous post is written by a person that doesn't know what they were saying. I am completly socialized, homeschooling is the best, and for their information parents that homeschool sign their kids up for sports or start them up on something where they meet people all the time, I play guitar, I play sports, I ride horses. I am surrounded by people, meeting new people everyday. I babysit. Homeschooled kids aren't locked up inside. I suggest getting your kid involved with Sports and other activitys where they get to be with kids their age almost everyday. If the kid still doesn't like it then put him in a private school, don't put them back in Public. I am a 13 year old girl that is homeschooled and everytime someone comes on one of these posts and says that homeschooled kids aren't socialized it hurts my feelings and offends me and makes me upset. I am always getting compliments on my social skills. My skills when answering the phone and so forth. When you are in public school then yeah you're being socialized but by the wrong people, your parents should be teaching you. I have learned who the right people to be involved with are and I have a better education then any of the kids that go to public/private school. Unless you have expierience as a parent that homeschooled or did or you are homeschooled then you have no right to come to the category of homeschooling and completly put it down, it is a inexpierienced opinion.