2006-12-25 11:52:32 · 31 answers · asked by . 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
To answer this, let me give you a history lesson. Many societies believe that sex before marriage is acceptable, that young people need to learn how to please their partner before marriage. This does not excuse pedophiles, it is just an historical fact.
My great-grandparents "had" to get married. My grandparents, on both sides, "had" to get married. My parents and many of their siblings "had" to get married. See a pattern?
I did not "have" to get married, but do not see premarital sex as being wrong. My main concerns, though, are children having babies, STD's, and young people getting into something that could affect them emotionally for the rest of their lives. A person should take precautions and be emotionally ready before delving into sex, premarital or not. You can never take back virginity once it is given away. You can never take back innocence once you have lost it.
Be true to yourself first. Don't do it just to be cool or one of the gang...it's not worth it. Don't be pressured into sex. But, don't be made to feel guilty if you have already had sex. Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Protect yourself above all else.
We are sexual beings. Abstanance is something your parents want you to think about. They could be right, even if it is only for religious reasons.
2006-12-25 12:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's no one right answer because the answer to that question is different for everyone. If you were 14, I'd say "YES" and if you were 24, I'd say "NO". Generally speaking.
I think of pre-marital sex like this. I wouldn't buy a car without a test drive, would you? If I'm going to be committed to someone, I'm going to find out what the sex is like first. I've known hot-as-hell guys who were lame in bed and not-so-hot guys who were fabulous. "Nice guys" who were great, and "nice guys" who were a turn off.
Wish I could remember where I read it recently, but the majority of Americans admit to sex before marriage, and the numbers haven't changed much since the 1950s. People these days are just sometimes more open about it.
2006-12-25 19:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by buffy s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.
the basic definition of the word "fornication" is premarital sex.
the reason it is wrong is because of genetics and DNA. There are theories that say once you sleep with someone that person is a part of you Your entire life. If that person has a disease You keep it. So in a way it is suppose to keep the Flesh Clean from impurity.
in the book of leviticus Moses condemns many forms of sexual encounters and he lists something called "confusion of face" which is another symptom of corrupted genealogy through genetics.
2006-12-25 20:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of may people may beg to differ but I think it is a big wrong. Sex shouldn't be looked down upon but there is a proper etiquette to who and when it is restricted to (spouse AFTER marriage). And the atheists tell me they can be moral without religion; do they know what an important decision it is to have sex with someone. You might have kids (even with protection) that you aren't ready for and your children will be *cough* bastards. C'mon have some morals. People shouldsave it for that ONE special someone and quit being so dam promiscous. If they aren't ready for marriage they're definately not ready for sex. Peace.
2006-12-25 21:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by justmyinput 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In fact, premarital sex is a very good idea. Who in the world would want to get married to someone with whom they have never had sex? They may not be sexually compatible at all, which could ruin their marriage.
If I were a marriage counselor, I would suggest that it be required.
2006-12-25 20:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by HarryTikos 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Native american girls would have relations with the men if they both needed it back in the day until marriage. Then it was only their partner after marriage. Do you buy a car without driving it first? Think.Yes! I have been married and dont plan on going there again but I still have normal bodily functions. Dont let words in a book stop you from feeding your body its needs.
2006-12-25 19:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YES!!!
Because God created sex to be between a husband and wife, AFTER they are married. Just like having sex outside of marriage is wrong.
2006-12-25 19:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
That depends on what nationality you are and if you follow your culture rules.Also what it means to you to lose something so special like your virginity.To some people that is a great deal.
2006-12-25 20:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on your religion I would say. But sex is a BIG part of a relationship and how can you marry someone never having explored that aspect of the relationship before?
2006-12-25 19:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No.
To those of you who said yes, let me ask you this: What are YOU going to do if nobody ever wants to marry you?
2006-12-25 20:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by catrionn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋