I am turning 20 in January and i have never gone on a date with a girl nor have i really had any friends that are girls. Do you think this is because of the way i look or because i have no confidence in myelf, shy, and never go out and just stay at home? Any suggestions to help me, i would really appreciate it.
2006-12-25 11:34:52 · 7 answers · asked by datzme240 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 27 and never had a boyfriend in my life! I can't help you but I know what it feels like...
2006-12-25 11:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by kimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to boost your confidence a bit! And you need to get yourself out there. You seem like a shy guy. Speaking as someone who was once very shy as well (and never liked to go out), I had to step out of my comfort zone (no matter how much I hated it in the beginning, it did A LOT of good). So I allowed friends to drag me to parties, dances, coffee houses, etc. etc. and after a while, it didn't feel so strange and I was more comfortable talking to the opposite sex. Do you have a buddy you can go out with? Go in a group (you know about that whole safetly in numbers thing?). And once you get to your social spot (wherever that may be) leave your group every now and then and go talk to a girl. You don't have to be looking for a date, just get some practice talking with girls. It doesn't have to be anything more than that. Also, try going it alone once in a while. Are you in college? Try talking to girls that are in some of your classes. If you have a big exam coming up, ask them if they would like to study with you. Who knows? Maybe you'll end up really liking someone and then you'll score a night on the town.
Bottom line, don't be afraid to put yourself out there. It may seem strange or a little uncomfortable at first, but will get better with time. And remember, girls are not going to just come knocking on your door. You have to put yourself "on sale" so to speak. Eventually someone will buy.
2006-12-25 20:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your SMART!
you need to calm down and look at things in perspective, yesterday I saw on TV a guy whom ahs not had any girlfriend at ALL and he is about half a year out of college.He said this is the way his dad told him to do it, he has a 4.0 GPA and now has a job making more than his dad does. his dad said now start dating slowly, and no premarital affair either...now I think everyone show do this. it would save a lot of heart pain, and less diseases handed out too. so do not worry, you have a lot of time ..but OK..think about what you are looking for.what places do you hang out at..even if it is the school library you have tons of chances even there...just be NICE, SMILE, ( sorry about this one, no offence please, BUT make sure you are always clean, shower and clean clothes, cologne lightly, and brush teeth several times a day, and breath mints on hand) BE YOURSELF, do not walk or talk any different than what you are..but, do be more confident in the way you speak and talk to females...take what the great American inventor Thomas Edison said, I did not fail 1,000 times, I found a 1,000 ways not to make the light bulb...take that to heart...and the meaning is..you HAVE to talk to them and ask them out in order to get real world experience. and do not look at it as you failed, but look at it as your learning and your going to keep learning....and reassess each incident and learn from it...but be yourself.do not LOWER your voice and walk around sticking your chest out, they will know your fake and STAY away from you..be kind, gentle, considerate, warm, helpful and so much more. ( go to the library and read some books on how to make woman happy, how to keep a woman, and stuff like that) ( do not be embarrassed, just go get the book and find a place to sit and read) maybe even check the book out, make sure you go to a cute librarian to check the book out, she will see your willing to learn and just maybe smile at you..smile back and ask would you like to go for coffee or something when you get off work, she just may say yes...why, she knows your interested in learning about females and how to make them happy.. I am not saying this IS the girl. but who knows..
try it, you may like it..
good luck
smile
2006-12-29 08:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way, but as I got older I got tired of it cause I would shake when I get around people. start with female cousins {the wild ones} and have them take you around their friends and get dressing tips from them. It always good to have a females point of view.
2006-12-25 19:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey nick. it sounds like you haven't got enough confidence in yourself. me i moved to a new town once and i didn't know anybody. i went to the pub a few times said hello. if you don't take any notice of anybody and take any interest in them they wont take any interest in you. so go out have a drink and meet people! good luck mate
2006-12-25 19:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by xx or xy¿Ø↔♀♂♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt a big deal to have not dated yet, join a church,, mormon preferably, they have alot of young woman eager to marry let alone go on a date
2006-12-25 19:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
patience!
Everything will happen to its time
2006-12-25 19:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Susanne R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋