All we ever do is disagree and I must say I meet him more than compromise. He acts like the world revolves around him while I stay home with kids each day, cook gourmet meals each day, provide him his time out with friends. We just disagree about everything from our movies and especially to the way we instill values to our kids. I believe in Christian values. Even today, on Christmas, I had the kids get gifts for him and I got nothing from him. He said he was just too busy. I know he works, but I think he is just doesn't think about me and that maybe I was hoping for something to open today. Despite this topic, we continue to disagree about anything and everything. We saw a marriage councelor, who recognized the problem....him lacking my needs. I want to be happy for the kids. I think he just wants the marriage to convenience himself in having someone take care of him while he brings home a check. No mean answers from mean people please! I need serious advice....
2006-12-25 11:03:24 · 15 answers · asked by Teddy Bear 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your husband is self-centerd and selfish. These "negatives" will be "passed on" to your children. Remember, your children are the reflection of the four walls in which you raise them. If you have a serious problem with your husband now, you can rest assured that Your Children will grow up to be just like him! It seems that the "negatives" in life, are the "first thing" children learn. Bad manners,swearing,hitting,throwing things,temper tantrums. You must and I say must, do something "positive" now, to change yours and the children's environment, before it is too late. Have you thought about the fact, that your husband could be "cheating" on you? A husband, who has "children" and a "loving wife", does not become too busy to forget to buy a Christmas Gift for the "mother" of his children. Get Real my darlin! Don't waste your good years, and wake up too late. You need more than counselling, you need a "vacation" away from the "kids", you and him, and rekindle your love! Good Luck and I wish you all the best in 2007.
2006-12-25 11:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate people like this.
I felt like I was too busy to get presents, but I am not in a relationship, and my parents dont want stuff from me (they have a lot more money than me right now). I know I could have got presents if I really wanted.
If I had a girl like you, you would get something!!! Don't count on him to come around. You know what kind of guy he is. Take it or leave it. I say leave it.
You can get what you want if you don't give up. Many people settle out of fear for being single. I'm 24 right now. Sometimes I would like to be with someone, sometimes I am glad I'm not. But I never want to be with someone who isn't a good person.
Your situation won't get better on it's own. You have to make it that way. My very best friend got divorced and started over with nothing and 3 kids at age 27. She's a real estate agent now and works very hard and is actually making over 200,000 this year in Iowa!!!
God will help you if you help yourself.
Add detail - Don't wait until you can afford to, or until this, or until that, you do the right thing now. There will never be a perfect time for such a huge decision, if you keep trying to think of reasons to put it off, it will go on forever.
2006-12-25 11:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're stuck in such a difficult situation. You seem like a really great person who gives all to her family. Does your husband realize there aren't many wives who will actually cook gourmet meals for their husbands on a daily basis? He also has the luxury of not having to pay a babysitter to take care of the children. Now, what I think the problem is that your husband takes you for granted. He doesn't realize the sacrifices you make for him and the family. He thinks just because he brings home the paycheck he is entitled to get everything he wants without compromising anything in return. A marriage is about team effort...50/50. How long have you been married for? You should go into intensive marriage counseling if you two still have love for one another. As long as there is still love and trust, you still have a chance of saving your marriage. Is your husband happy in the marriage? It seems like you're not, and everybody deserves to feel loved and happy in their marriage. I would suggest trying counseling again, because I think there still might be hope. Good luck!
2006-12-25 11:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop catering to his every whim. Don't cook him gourmet meals. Make a meal for the kids and yourself for a week, then when he gets home, tell him you ate already and that he can fend for himself. Arrange time to go out with your friends and TELL him when (don't ask for permission). If he can't even get you a gift at Christmas, then don't bother getting him any gifts for his birthday, father's day or next Christmas. Don't do his laundry, don't pick up after him, don't do his dishes. When he complains, then address the fact that if he isn't going to think about you, then why should you think about him. Remind him that you are a team, partners, and that you love him. You need his respect, consideration and help, as much as he needs yours.
2006-12-25 11:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a serious conversation with him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you mean what you say and that you're not playing. It's inexcusable to not get you ANYTHING for Christmas. I know the real meaning of Christmas is not about presents, but he couldn't even get you a gift card to a store. I would advise going to see another marriage counselor and try to work it out. However, God only helps those that help themselves.....
2006-12-25 11:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by careb0o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make it easier for him. If he is working all the time and too busy, you should have gotten yourself a gift from him. Help him out for Christ's sake. He is working like a dog and tiring himself out to the bone so that you and your kids can afford a nice house and gifts for Christmas. You're not doing anything to help out around the house with his stuff. Don't complain.
You need to do more for him. You are not working, so don't be such a lazy woman and demand this and that from your poor husband. He is tired. He is working all day. He is not in the mood to come home to more chores. You are a bad wife for not helping him out with his home life.
2006-12-25 11:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares for you he basically has an rather intense intercourse force. My husband is an identical way. He likes to touch and sense and kiss on me. it must be at the same time as I;m cooking, using, talking on the telephone something. yet he basically loves you. you could tell him to renounce that would not make you comfortable....My husband loves forplay additionally...yet so do I. i think of it quite is the terrific ingredient that enables you get aroused. as a techniques because of the fact the wetness is going use lube after your organic juices are long gone. My husband likes to maintain going to yet I basically tell him that i'm drained after he gets his first nut. LOL....yet while i believe comfotable then i'm going to save going.... basically tell him which you're executed... and daddy i won't be ready to take anymore. he will sense like he did a good ingredient..or basically flat out tell him the way you sense. which you do no longer desire to be touched on lots....you ought to compromise, you need to in case you like your marriage to paintings. Do you adult adult males have babies.
2016-11-23 16:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by corrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What advice are you looking for? You know you are saying 'no mean answers' because you know people are going to call you stupid for staying with such an inconsiderater dumb*ss. If your christian values keep you from divorce, have fun with that idiot.
2006-12-25 11:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get it worked out with counseling, let it go. Or your kids will grow up thinking your relationship with your husband is normal.
2006-12-25 12:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by moonie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY WITH HIM!!! love is a choice.... i'm serious. do it for your kids and do it for him and... just - think about your kids... go to a marriage counselor... do everything possible... and this may sounds crazy . go to a bookstore or something and buy this book - redemption by karen kingsbury.... just think about it... (link below)
2006-12-25 11:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋