Me and truley the love of my life are probably in the darkest hour of our love. I left South Africa 3 months ago and so i have a choice either to destroy my future as a qualified person and go back or lose the love of my life and go for my future and then forever regret it either way i am fucked shitless. i'm 17 yes ppl may say i am young but i am dead serious, i'll die emotionally if i am kept from my love but i'll die if i am kept from my dreams. please i dont want bulshit answers please be honest and tell me what would you do? i dont want to chose, i really dont.
2006-12-25 11:03:17 · 14 answers · asked by 53779j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are loads of jobs out there but there is only 1 man for every women (well in most cases). My boyfriend took a risk and moved to my country and he has found another job but i no he couldn't find another girl who loves him like i love him.
2006-12-28 08:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Daniella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to live in South Africa and I commend you on managing to immigrate out to work elsewhere as the crime situation is disasterous. In this situation you should not choose. Stay where you are for your job. You are lucky to have been able to leave a very dangerous country. If the man you love truely loves you then he will be willing to leave South Africa and start a new life oversees.
You are going to be more "fucked shitless" if you return to South Africa.
2006-12-25 22:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by ursula_higgs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your dreams, the rest will work itself out. Really, I promise. If he is really the love of your life, he will still be there when you are done becoming qualified. Seriously. If you believe in 'love of your life' he won't go anywhere. If he does, then he can't be the love of your life.
2006-12-25 19:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go after education just to secure your future, no love is guaranteed to work out no matter how real it is. If you do stay with your love and if one day it ends you,ll have no good job and find yourself in a mess. But you education is guaranteed a lifetime and you'll always be secure. After qualifying , go back to him, if its real love he'll still be there.
2006-12-25 19:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you'll move on....a career opportunity may be once in a life time....there are millions of great guy's and gals so just keep lookin'....why doesn't he come to you? ask him....maybe he doesn't feel as deeply! sorry Hun to be negative but what do you want to hear....Go to him and **** up your life career wise? No way....it'll be a bigger mistake in the long haul....
2006-12-25 19:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... wow thts really a hard choice! but here's a way tht may be helpful... go for the qualification first and tell him tht u have to go to tht or u'll jst be a bum (homeless person) and then wen u finish with it u'll fly directly back to him! (if u still feel the same way about him... goodluck
2006-12-25 19:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by em-tastic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my lover is australian so i feel you on that...however if you feel it's right...i would give everything up for it. like you said, at least no regrets. if things don't work out, you can still pick up where you left off-but you are young so don't be too dramatic-that's a little scary. good luck!
2006-12-25 19:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend has the same problem as yours but he does cope.Don't loose both of them .continue with your your carrier be faithful to her/him , keep in touch through dailly emails if you can ,phones and send him /her some gifts. Be faithful to him/her Tell him/her how much he/she mean to you .Visit him/her during holidays. Successful relationship needs commitment and sacrifices . I wish I had somebody who is very commited to me like you.
2006-12-25 19:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
50/50 at this moment in time stick with your job,in another 3months time if you still feel the same go back, if he loves you he will understand & when possible follow you.
2006-12-26 15:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your future your choice, you will regret throughing your education away if the romance dont work out.
2006-12-28 17:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋