Every guy I've met, even the ones everyone says are "good guys" treat me like crap after awhile. My supposedly happily married friends are getting divorced. Even my parents have divorced after 25 years of marriage. I see the questions on here about finding love, and the answers are always "just wait, it will come to you." And I'm sorry, but I think it's total crap, a fantasy, and I've honestly given up hope at this point. If there is anyone with a happy story to prove me wrong, great, but how do you know it's true? How do you know you won't wake up tomorrow to have your husband/wife tell you it just isn't working for them?
2006-12-25 10:48:24 · 11 answers · asked by C D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to believe in love. Just believe in lust and everything will be a-ok!
2006-12-25 10:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe in LOVE, I'm quite sure too that "it will come to you". But it's something EVERYONE has to continue working on, more so when you'v got/found it. To be perpetually in love, one must keep giving - the moment you stop, love wilt just like a rose that does not get anymore water. The 2 people must consciously make the love work - just like thru the first day/month/year they met. But, we are all humans - this is really hard to sustain, given so many other daily "pressures" we all have to face, we have to start learning to live happily together. Bear in mind - every person is DIFFERENT and we simply have to learn to reduce our expectation, accept/tolerate the other, Just remember, romantic love hardly ever last for too long. This is REALITY !
2006-12-25 19:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, don't lose hope. Love is what keeps the world rolling on........Love is the single most dominant emotion without which men would have just killed each other in their greed............You have to make a move................Being afraid of "loss of love" will only stop you from loving anyone.
You have to make a choice...............it is either FAITH or FEAR.
Theodore roosevelt was the president who was not able to use his legs..........it could have very well been an excuse to just sit back and compromise with life.....to be afraid and say that there is no point in trying to succeed because of it..............but he BELIEVED in himself..........he went on and became the president..........
Just a couple of blocks away from the white house sat a beggar who couldn't use his legs either............but he sat on the street begging...........
Now what do you think was the difference between these men???
Both had the same problem but one became the president of USA while another was in the streets begging!...........The answer is one decided to travel the FAITH way while the other took the path of FEAR........
Now, you have to make a decision...................it is time to decide which way you want to go...............either the path of FAITH or FEAR.......
I hope you make the right decision...........
2006-12-25 19:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rejo J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you know you are even going to wake up tomorrow morning? You are making the classic mistake of over riding all the good thoughts with bad because you have "no proof". You are just going to go on feeling like sh*t til somebody (who???) 'proves' you wrong. There ARE no guarantees in life, but if you are not ready to live and take chances, you are going to have a lonely life wondering....."what if".....
2006-12-25 19:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just because the love doesn't last forever, doesn't mean love doesn't exist. Your friends WERE happily married and in love, same with your parents, and maybe someof your boyfriends. Not all love is meant to last, Pepole come into your life to help you grow and teach you things and for you to do the same for them in return. When that job is done, you slowly start drifting, and then you meet someone new. Sometimes the love lasts for your whole life, sometimes it doesn't. But it doesn't mean that love is non existant. Don't give up on love. its there =)
2006-12-25 18:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you mean. If you genuinely don't want to be in love, that's your choice, and I'm proud of you for it. You can live without it just as well as anyone can.
2006-12-25 19:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I can't say anything to make you feel better. But i do know how you feel and I hate to say it but I agree.
2006-12-25 18:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by kandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just believe, because there is someone out there for you. Just be patient and wait and when you least expect.....they will be there for you and you'll have no say so over what your heart says to do!
2006-12-25 18:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i kw the feeling.....
but islam keeps me content.
2006-12-25 18:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by trina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean and know exactly how you feel :-(
2006-12-25 18:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by shamoolax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋