Christians Please Help, Does God's Word say anything about the husband,?

Question

needing to be more spritually grown then the wife? I am a Christian and I resently started dating a Christian Man and we are on very different levels, spritually. I have more knowledge of the word and a stronger Faith than he does, and I am afraid that he may need to let God and Jesus work in his life more before he tries to be in a relationship. Very hard decision for me. Please Help and Pray for Guidance for me.

Answer 1

Hello Smiles. No, there is nothing in God's word that would require or suggest that the husband be more spiritually mature than the wife. Christians usually are at different spiritual levels anyway since they usually do not begin to learn the exact same things at the exact same time.

If this man meets the scriptural requirements for a husband as outlined in the Bible and is able to take the spiritual lead in a household, there is no need to be concerned in this area. You can help him as respects his spiritual growth.

It is more important to make sure you two are compatible scripturally speaking, and that you are both ready for the demands of marriage. And that you two will not be unevenly yoked.

How do you feel he will be in the area of 1 Peter 3:7? How is he as respects the requirements of 1 Timothy 3:2-4, 12? (Here the standards are for an elder in the congregation but they are fine standards to be met by a potential husband as well.) Is he ready to apply 1 Corinthians 7:10-11? Are you? These are the types of things that should be covered.

Hannah

Answer 2

It may be that the man may mature while in the relationship but perhaps before the relationship goes too far you might consider whether he can mature fast enough for you!

He may never attain to a higher spirituality or level in the Word and Jesus as you for that may be your calling.

Are you truly suitable companions? The Woerd says in Genesis that Adam needed a suitable helpmate not that Eve needed a suitable helpmate.

Do you have the spiritual strength to carry a man for the rest of your lives if he is incompacitated in this area?

The Scriptures say that a wife may leave if the husband is an unbeliever but once two christians become married they are one in spirit. What happens when you are married and it is too late?

Take lots of time when contemplating your destiny. There are warning signs already or you would not be asking this panel for guidance. My suggestion, Be Careful!

Do not become unevenly yoked for what GOd has put together let no man put assunder. Marriage is sacred.

Answer 3

While the Bible encourages the man to take responsibility and leadership in the home (because men are often prone to be lax), it says nothing about who should be more spiritual: the husband or the wife. And the wife shouldn't be constantly judging her husband for his perceived lack of spirituality. The way he is when you marry him, is the way you should accept him for the rest of your lives together.
If your spiritual interests are really different, you should perhaps think twice about the marriage. It's not a question of legalism or him not being good enough for you. Just a question of common sense. You don't want to be married for the next 40 or 50 years to someone you will feel dissappointed in. Also, think of th efuture children. So maybe you should wait until spiritual questions are really cleared up. He doesn't need to be "more advanced than you" or even "as advanced as you", but you both need to be going in the same direction: spiritual growth.
Life for both of you will eventually become a nightmare if you one day feel he is "holding you back".
EDIT:
While Rahrr makes some good points and certainly deserves the 2 thumbs up people gave him, I would differ on one point: The man is not called on to be the priest of the home. The Bible teaches the "priesthood of all believers", which includes the women, and the children as the come to know Christ.
Priesthood involves standing between God and man; it means intercession; it means being in fellowship with God. All the believers in the home must be faithful in this aspect.

Answer 4

First of all, it sounds like you are under cutting God. Is He not the one who gives us all understanding? It doesn't matter if this man has been a Christian for one day or one year. As long as he is submitting to God's will for his life,and reading the word, He is acting in faith. I don't think God sees us as having different levels of faith or spiritual maturity. You may have more experience at being a Christian, but to say that he isn't as spiritually grown or that your faith is stronger sounds like you may be putting yourself on that pedastal that the Pharisies did. Climb down and help him learn more about faith and the word and if you find out you love this man, then marry him and let God lead him into the "head of the home" position that he created him to be in. Just remember that nothing is impossible with God!

Answer 5

If you feel this way, tell him how you feel in a respectful manner. Perhaps he needs time to learn and grow...are you willing to wait? You can seek guidance from other sources as well. You may have more knowledge of the word...and that is fine. However, the stronger faith part...that is something to ponder. You must ask yourself...is this because you truly do have stronger faith, or because you think you do? If you feel he is not ready for a relationship with you...fine, but you cannot say that about him in general. It is not for you to decide for him.
If you like him...ask him what he might feel about going to a bible study together, in which you both might grow and see the level of commitment you have to God. Baby faith does not mean unstable... mature christians often could use a little enthusiasm infused into their walk with God as well... try to look at this objectively...seek advice, together.

Answer 6

Smiles....... "Never marry someone in hopes that they will change later". The more I pondered this thought, I think it could also extend to "Never date someone in hopes that they will change later"

In 2 Corintihains 6:14-18 Paul goes into great detail explaining why belivers should not be "unequally yoked". The metaphor comes from that a ox would pull the other ox causing injury and pain.

Also 1 Cor 11:3 Paul says the "man is the head of the woman".

I have soooo much to tell you if you really want email me and I could give you a sermon! But I'll end with this....

Smiles if you dont step back and LET "God and Jesus work in his life more before he tries to be in a relationship".. He never will. Sometimes sister, we have to step back, NOT because we dont care but because we DO care and let God do his thing"

YOU WILL NEVER KNOW HOW MUCH I ADMIRE YOU EVEN THINKING THIS WAY. I KNOW THIS IS DIFFICULT AND YOU FEEL TORN BETWEEN FEELING AND YOUR COMMIT TO GOD....GOD BLESS YOU

ps I recommend a book by Ravi Zacharias titled "I Issac take thee Rebekah"--it changed my life

Answer 7

This is a hard one. I had been raised in the Christian faith, but my husband had not an inkling of what it was about. I did eventually accept Christ, and then a year later, he did.

Because of my background(no credit to me, but to my teachers and parents) it was easy for me to pick up what I had previously learned and apply it. My husband had to start from scratch, so I had to be in much prayer about keeping my mouth shut on many occasions.

Now, many years later, my husband is probably more knowledgeable than I, and he is my Sunday School teacher.

My advice is to take a wait and see attitude. You are not married to him yet, so I had to adhere to a different set of rules than you. If he loves being in Bible Studies and loves reading the Word, you don't have anything to worry about. God bless you.

Answer 8

The bible says that the wife should be in subjection to the husband. Even if you know you are better you should not be proud about it because there may come a time that you might belittle the other.

Subjection of a wife to a husband rests on a Bible principle, which Paul himself states. To the congregation in Corinth he writes: “I want you to know that the head of every man is the Christ; in turn the head of a woman is the man; in turn the head of the Christ is God. . . . man was not created for the sake of the woman, but woman for the sake of the man. That is why the woman ought to have a sign of authority upon her head because of the angels.” (1 Cor. 11:3, 9, 10)

As you said, you might be more matured spiritually so when it comes to things that compromise your belief in God, speak nicely but never point out that you are better.

Answer 9

Well, the Bible does say that the husband is supposed to be the Priest of the household/family. But, it doesn't say that a woman can't date a man who is a new Christian or not on the same level as the woman. Remember, you can both grow together in the Lord.

Answer 10

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