I have been invited to have breakfast with someone I met on a Christian forum and have gotten to know very well over several years (it's part of a gift exchange, *NOT* a romantic relationship). Normally, I would have no problems with this, but my dad (I'm 16) doesn't know I participated in the gift exchange and doesn't want me to give much more than my last name online. Even though I know him really well, I'm also a little afraid because I know how dangerous it is to meet someone online when I'm so young. How do I politely turn him down? Or should I take it? And if I take it, how should I tell or avoid my dad? Please help!
2006-12-25 10:25:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are in a sticky situation, and sometimes it is hard to do the right thing. But guess what? Do it anyway! Believe me now or believe me later...honesty is always the best policy. And being what you term a "Jesus freak" compels you to even higher standard.Why? Well because the only correct standard of measurement is truth. Take it in large doses. I promise you will sleep alot better. And if you practice often enough it will turn into a value that will lay the foundation for your whole life.
Oh, by the way...it is very, very dangerous for any minor on the net.
Here's to many good nights of sleep. Peace be with you little sister
2006-12-25 10:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by JOHN 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem intelligent. I would not meet him. He may seem harmless online, but IRL it may be a totally different story. Tell the guy that you might want to later on, like in a few years, but not now. If he presses you to come, then that's your sign that he's not as harmless as you think. If he still hassels you about it tell him you'll come if you can bring your Dad and your High School football team. (ha, that should get him to back off).
I would just tell him that you don't meet IRL with internet buddies. He should understand. Your Dad doesn't have to be involved.
2006-12-25 10:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the breakfast person that you have made other plans and back out.Don't you listen to the news? We have a child molester in town that was caught on the internet in our library.His home ankle bracelet was home without him.He was trying to convince a young girl to meet him, he just got out of prison for rape----on a child.You are a child.Please never meet anyone Christian or not. You can be what you want to be on the internet,you be safe...tell your Dad,he'll be glad that you did......
2006-12-26 09:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at 16 be extremely cautious, never meet anyone in a private place and never leave a public place to be alone with them. I have met many people online who turned out to be good friends, so I think the internet can be a neat pleace to meet people, but you have to be very careful and follow your gut instinct, if something does not seem right, then it probably isnt.
2006-12-25 10:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one: "Honor thy father and thy mother." You need to have a long talk with your father about how you feel regarding the situation, you need to have a long talk with the other person involved and let them know that you ARE respecting your parents' wishes regarding the issue and ask if your father might also be invited along. And then, if and only if your father is okay with you going with a chaperone, should you go. It's that easy.
2006-12-26 09:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a little risky meeting people off the internet, what about taking some friends with you?
Possibly have your dad take you all there and have him wait? (sounds dorky having your dad around, but its safe to be cautious)
or you can just tell your friend that unfortunately, you wont be able to attend as your dad has made some plans without your knowledge that you are unable to get out of and apologise to him
hope it goes all well... take care & be careful
2006-12-25 10:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be best that you do not go. Tell the person that you are unable to attend this gift exchange and would rather continue to have the friendship remain on line.
2006-12-25 16:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Shodan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never lie to your parents - and not telling the truth is still a lie.
You say you're 16 and have talked to the guy for a long time?
And you can guaranty your Father that this guy isn't 45 and getting ready to show you how cute it is in another state?
If you decided to meet him, do it in a public restaurant with your parent with you. Please.
2006-12-25 10:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would turn him down because it is extremely dangerous to meet someone on line that doesn't meen you cant talk to him but you should respect your dads wishes. For he is trying to protect you. Hope this helps Sincerely Meg. ps. If you still want to visit him you need to ask your dad first because if you do it behind his back his credibility for you will drop. I don't think you want to be not trusted by your own dad. Note- I hope you resolve this setuation. Please think about what I just said.
2006-12-25 10:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth... you can't accept his gift... that your dad would be really upset if he found out that you did. Don't go behind your parents back and do stuff like this. It could be to your detriment. Stop and think. You know exactly what the correct answer is.
2006-12-25 10:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ocean 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋