There is this girl. I met her 7 yrs ago and we became really really good friends. Then 4yrs ago i moved overseas. I have had a few relationships since then. but none of them felt quite right. Anyway i never forgot this girl. for 4 yrs i had no contact at all. i never forgot her, what she looked like, where she lived, how she sounds..nothing. Except her house number. otherwise i would have sent her so many letters i can barely beleive i wrote them all.
So i went on holiday back there for three weeks, and she had a bf, but he was an idiot (i wont go into detail, its personal for her) anyway, now she dumped him, but im on the opposite side of the planet. When she told me, i was shocked, and i felt bad for her cause she liked him a lot, and i want her to be happy, but at the same time i was happy cause it meant i would have a shot. i want to know whether i love her or what. Cause i have never felt like this for anyone. I light up when i see her apparently, and i get confused around her
2006-12-25 10:08:17 · 23 answers · asked by thomo_boy1988 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well this was pretty decisive pretty quickly. lol i am planning to move back there. i was going to surprise her on her 18th bday by just casually dropping by the whole "i was just in the neighbourhood" thing. i have been helping her through all the hard times she had with her ex. and stuff, he was a total d##k. we are keeping on contact through msn and myspace. we email constantly and talk whenever we are both online. i seriously dont know what id do if i could at least talk to her.
2006-12-25 10:18:58 · update #1
oh yeah a little bit of info. i live in england. she lives in australia. thats about as far apart as you can possibly get.
2006-12-25 10:21:38 · update #2
ok finally. no more details my page is getting long enough as it is. i am 18 she is 17, she knows how i feel i have told her, and all she did was get a little bit closer, and smile. so i hope thats a good thing. and not just her trying to get some sort of happiness from the hurt that her bf put her through. while i was on holiday there
2006-12-25 21:46:40 · update #3
You've fallen for her pretty hard. Maybe you should move back to where she lives? You definatly could have a shot with her.
2006-12-25 10:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Karen Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what you've reminded me of right now. I've been through exactly the same things and I can tell you for sure that the fact that you still remember her face and features along with all these insignificant little things that make her who she is, without seeing her or hearing from her for seven whole years is definitely-not merely a sign but- a proof of your deep love for her; a love so strong that knows no boundaries. I really believe that unrequited love should never concern people that love so much. On the contrary, they should be instantly loved back. Unfortunately, life is not fair. I'm sorry for being a little carried away but the wounds are pretty deep! As far as I can tell, you hesitate to talk to her about the way you feel because you don't want to lose her from a friend if these feelings of yours prove to be superficial and of course it is also the distance that gets in the way. The best way to act would simply be to give her a clue of how you feel about her but only as much as you need in order to discover what she'd think of the possibility of you and her being together. In other words make her suspect-she should always doubt whether she understood right-of your real feelings but without expressing yourself too directly so as to be able to "fix" things later in case she wishes for you to remain friends. This way, you can sleep peacefully at nights without wondering "what if..." and you can also avoid losing her from a friend since she would always give you the benefit of the doubt. ;)
2006-12-25 18:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a decent, genuine person and its great that youve kept in contact with her, and your supporting her through the rough patches! Im sure she'll appreciate that ;)
As for whether you love someone or not, only you truly know this, and i think that you think you know the answer to this already... you just need someone else to tell you first :)
So my answer is... yes i think you love her... so go for it, and give it a shot!!
You only live once, i dont know how old you are??
Go and visit her, and see how it goes : Im sure itll be a great surprise when she sees you again!!! :)
It'd be dead romantic to turn up, with roses, fly across the world to see her and tell her your feelings :) be careful not to rush things though :)
Anyways good luck!
Im on myspace if you need any advice, ive had my fair share of relationships, including long distance ones :)
www.myspace.com/helenlouise20
Helen x
2006-12-25 20:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important things you should keep fairly simple for them to work right. You know how good it feels to put on a nice clean shirt? Well, approach the whole thing that way. No more analysis. Just live your life and allow it to bring you closer to her. You will know very soon whether you are on the right track or not. I get a yes on the whole thing. - C.
2006-12-25 19:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been 7 years and you ask a question like that?! :)
I would say 'love' is a too big word in your situation, but your definitely 'in love'. Don't waste your time on thinking what it is, just do sth about it! If you don't you will regret it for the rest of your life, trust me :) And don't screw it up! Don't be too pushy, try to figure out what is her attitude towards you. I would definitely suggest visiting her but be careful, your story about letters sounds a bit scary, remember that a woman will not think you're attractive if you're obsessed with her. If it's been that long then it's worth it. If she feels the same way you could be one happy guy soon! Good luck my friend!
2006-12-25 18:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by ngapleaz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take it easy with her. if she dumped her bf for you. she may be planning of getting with you. sounds like you two may be in love, try touching her. she will respond, trust me.look into her eyes and see if she smiles. listen to her and be there for her. show her your true side. i've justed been through the same thing and i'm reaping the benefits. when you know someone loves you back, it's the greatest feeling in the world. just take a deep breathe, smile and enjoy the coming weeks ahead and people will feel your arura. it's true what people say, you make more friends when you're in love.
2006-12-26 07:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by rjhamuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do. There is nothing wrong with being a little happy that she is now single although at the same time you felt a little teeny weeny bad because of her breakup, (yea right, lol, anyway, yeah i know)......Maybe you should contact her more now, still take things slow at this point though but causually let her know that you are still interested (after awhile of course).....Things will began to fall into place
2006-12-25 18:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should stay in touch with her but if there are a lot of miles between you I don't know what kind of relationship it could be...Who knows if it is love or not, test the waters, you will not be satisfied til you do..
2006-12-25 18:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, yes, you are in love alright, sounds like you've met your soulmate, but what are you going to do about it, being so far away?
You need to see her face to face as soon as possible or things aren't going to happen. Get it sorted and good luck.
2006-12-25 18:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by demnity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy! You are in seriouse LOVE!!! If you feel that way do something about it. Any thing to get back to her. If i was you i would go crazy!! I could'nt live without her if i had your feelings. But hang in there. Don't loose HOPE!! Miricles can happen.
2006-12-25 18:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋