I asked my bf to come with me to my father's house for christmas. I arranged the gathering early (12 noon to about 2) because I know he has children that he will want to see later.
His mother invited me over to have dinner with them. I graciously declined because I knew his childrens mothers would be there, and I didn't want to be the cause of any tension (one of them doesn't care for me).
Am I wrong for being pissed that he, at the last minute, decided not to come, since that would have been the only time I would have been able to see him?
2006-12-25 09:57:42 · 4 answers · asked by ♥ Meme ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...His mother and I are good friends, she knows and understands why I am not coming.
2006-12-25 10:08:00 · update #1
...there's no getting along with his daughter's mother. She wishes to do me bodily harm. We have fought before when we were in HS.
...we have been friends for 6 years and just in the past couple of months attempted a relationship.
2006-12-25 13:57:09 · update #2
Yeah I think you need to get over your anger because you backed out first. If your going to be with him than you will need to learn to get allow with his children's mother. Let is go and move on tomorrow is a new day. Good luck!
2006-12-25 10:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Especially since you planned it with him in mind so he could see his kids. He shouldn't have expected you to come to his mom's when he knew that would make some tension for you with the exes. It's not like he wouldn't have seen his kids at all. You have to ask yourself " how important are you to him?" I had to go home by myself and drive for about 8 hours so I know kind of how you feel. But my bf was supposed to work on christmas eve, but he found out last friday night that he didn't, but he already made plans with his family. I guess sometimes things just don't always happen how you want them to. Maybe you can both spend new years together alone and have some time to eachother. :)
2006-12-25 18:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel pissed as well... the only reason I could see that he may have done that is if he felt that you didn't want to some to his mother's house. Maybe he felt it was time to introduce you to the entire family, and felt hurt when u declined. Did you tell him why you declined? Remember- communication is the key!!
2006-12-25 18:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shanah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not wrong-if he could have made everyone happy i think he should have done so
2006-12-25 18:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by kelly r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋