My ex dumped me for a younger girl (I'm 32 , he's 31 and she's 20)... so now I am having 'age' issues. Everyone I know tells me I'm crazy. I'm fit, healthy, look like I'm 25 and take really good care of myself... but he's made me feel like a worthless old woman. What is my problem? Do other women feel like this, too? Please give me some tips to get over this? thanks...
2006-12-25 08:43:50 · 12 answers · asked by lola 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
oh.. and she dumped him a week later! heehee
2006-12-25 08:44:07 · update #1
Personally I think older women are sexxxxxy. especially at your age. I dated a 32 year old woman. I'm 24. She looked like she was 25 but acted so much more mature than the women my age. And older women know what they want in bed...just a man's opinion.
2006-12-25 08:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by bruce_eel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is the one with the problem. Most 31 year olds would have very little in common with a 20 year old for a long term relationship.
32 is NOT old. You need to take a positive attitude about yourself. Think of all the things you have going for yourself - I bet there are thousands! Do something special just for you this week. I bet you have never had a massage - treat yourself to one!
2006-12-25 08:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by cat m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. Nicole Kidman is like you. Did you know that Mike Douglas and Tom Cruise are twice the age of their wives? That 20 year old will some day be 50 if she does not die. See this page for more on the differance between men and women.
Then click on the page Rx for Happiness so you can be more happy and peaceful as you grow older. You are now worse than ever since you are a couple of minutes older. Now you are even worse being a few seconds older. Now you are even worse since you aged another few seconds. Now you are the very worst ever being even older. You will never find the peace that you are looking for in relationships.
http://www.phifoundation.org/sex.html
2006-12-25 09:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my ex did just the opposite to me he dumped me when i was 20 and he was 21 for a 32 year old woman.. some guys just like older women.. now that i am 42 i had a 21 year old ask me out and my bf is 30... the age issues is his problem not yours.. and once you get out in the dating field you will find a lot of younger men are attracted to you just like the older one will be and the ones around your own age group..he sounds immature to me ..i know how you feel because i felt bad when my ex did that to me so many years ago for someone so much older.. he he she put him on such a short lease.. it was almost funny.. they been together 21 years and he cant even go to the store by himself.. funny how things work out.. your bf dumped you and she got even for you .. just like i get to hear about mine not having the freedom he enjoyed when we were together
2006-12-25 10:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's not you, it's your ex. I had one guy dump me because of my age, he was really crazy about me, but was ashamed to admit to his young friends that his girlfriend was older, so he dumped me. I felt like dirt for a long time and I was self-conscious of every line and mark on my face and ounce gained on my body. But then, I also had one guy dump me because I was too "fat," even though I only weighed 125 lbs.! I also had one guy say he didn't want to date me because I wasn't brunette. So, whatever, it's the guy. It doesn't hurt any less, but it really isn't you. I kept on looking, a lot, a lot of looking mind you, and despite all these jerk guys and guess what? I finally found my soulmate who was handsome, caring, respectful, put me on a pedestal AND was 18 years younger than me! He will not date women his age because he says there is too much drama and he doesn't need it. So! Bottom line, yes, men like all kinds. Some like 'em younger, but some like 'em older. Some like 'em skinny and some like 'em fat. Keep looking because your guy is out there!
2006-12-25 08:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Venice Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever watched reruns of a show? doesnt matter which show, just any show, like "Rosanne" in the beginning of a season a woman or man will look young and thats when alot of people think they thought was the best they ever looked? but as the seasons go on, they get older and they actually look better then the beginning. he just left cause its someone different.
2006-12-28 09:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by americansugar80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give him the satifsaction of knowing he upset you. i was 50 when he left for a 21 year old, who he later found he could not keep up with. my revenge was moving on and having a good life with the jerk. it really is all about self esteem. get help if you need to but please try to move on he is not worth it.
2006-12-25 09:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by c504play 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think about what you want in a man and start looking for the next one.
2006-12-25 13:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by copestir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not you that has issues, its your ex.
Thirty is still young and there are lots of men out there that would still find you very appealing and twenty too young for their tastes.
2006-12-25 08:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by neona807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down...everyone says that u're beautiful so wat do u have to worry about? it's his loss. concentrate on the present and not the past. get urself a new boy friend and stop worrying about this guy......live ur life like u think is right.
good luck!
2006-12-25 08:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by adari94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋