What do you think about long distance relationships?

Question

Give some positive advise.....
Tell me success stories?...How did you two make it?
How far did you live from each other?
How long did you guys had two wait to see each other?
How long did you go without talking?
How did you build trust?
How did you make your love grow stronger in your LDR?

Be as positive as you can.....thanks

Answer 1

Sure it can work. It just depends on how far you are from each other. If it's only about 1-2 hours away (80-100 miles) for example, that's not so bad.

You build trust by spending time / talking with each other. When you grow to love each other, the trust is there. It's strong and you can feel it.

Also, communication is key. I would say you shouldn't go longer than 2 days without talking. Find any means necessary to communicate. Now-a-days, you can communicate with ease: Celular Calling/Texting, Instant Messaging, Email.

There are many factors. It depends on the distance, how often you see each other, but "most importantly" it depends on the 2 people involved. If you both love each other very much and are eager to make it work, then it will work.

Answer 2

They usually don't work out but if the people involved are dedicated enough, it can work.

How did you two make it?
+ My older brother and his girlfriend always kept in contact by IM but later on, they got one of those cell phone plans where they could talk to each other for free. They spend a LOT of hours in a day on the phone... Sometimes, they don't even talk, they just hold the phone next to their ears (or use the headset) to, in my opinion, feel that they are physically together. They have been together for about 6 or 7 years and they have always lived in different states.

How far did you live from each other?
+ They live about 6 hours or so away from one another I believe.

How long did you guys had two wait to see each other?
+ My brother and his girlfriend used to see each other on like a monthly basis but now, they see each other every weekend or every other weekend.

How long did you go without talking?
+ I doubt they go a day without talking to one another.

How did you build trust?
+ I don't know how they did it but probably little by little.

How did you make your love grow stronger in your LDR?
+ I think it was because of the constant communication and thoughtfulness I guess. One Valentine's Day, she sent him a package in the mail and he was delighted. When she comes to visit him here, they go out and then hang out at home. They make the most of their time together. I think absence makes the heart grow fonder, if two people have a strong connection and are devoted to one another, they can do it.

Answer 3

Tried to have a long distance r/s for about 3 years. It didn't work because I met someone else, even though I know this guy was perfect for me. But I found someone who I dearly love and sometimes it's good to move on. Sorry this is not positive, but geography plays a big role in a relationship.. He's living in Canada, I am in the U.S.. Big gap there.. I've seen him twice in the last 10 years, but we would talk all the time. I do wonder sometimes if things would have worked out, if we had been closer..

Answer 4

Relationships take time and work. I have been talking to a man for about three months that lives and works one hundred and fifty miles away. We met on the Internet and finally went out on a date about a month ago.
We both work during the week and talk to each other when ever we can and share more personal information that we could if we were together every day. We have gone no more than a week with out taking, but we email daily.
Only way to find out if it will work is to try. Good Luck

Answer 5

Me and my boyfriend live 1000 miles apart. We have been dating for about two and half months and have never had any problems. We talk everyday on the phone. Building trust wasn't that hard because we learned to trust each other by being honest. Also, we tell each other everything. Also, if you get frustrated or mad talk about it with him because I think that long distance relationships can be hard if you are always stressed about it so make sure to get your feelings out.

Answer 6

Believe in your relationship, believe in what you know of your partner & trust your partner on every step of the way.

Me and hubie were ingached for 2 years long distance. We are married 10 years this year.

We lived about 140km form each other.

We only saw each other every 3rd weekend.

Hubie could only call me once a week, in those days a cellphone were for rich people.

Well he ask me to marry him when I was streight out of Gr12, knowing him well already, a promise he make he does not brake.

Apscenss makes the heart grow fonder.

Answer 7

it can work but not perfectly like you have in your head or want to hear from others. Be ready for a LOT of efforts in communicating and wooing. This is the fun part - to come up with creative ways to send your love across long distance.

And giving your person the benefit of the doubt...but don't be naive in obvious signs of deteriorating relationships...like s/he doesn't return your signs of affections. Don't beat up on yourself if later on should you find yourself really needing someone that is not 'long distance'...because it is natural. It worked out for me because my person moved back after a little less than a year of living apart on opp coasts.

Answer 8

Well we were sweet senior year of high school and over the summer and into the freshman year of college. i drove 3 hours from albany NY to amherst NH EVERY weekend. I talked to her on the phone every night. about 1 week before finals she said " i wanna see what its like with this other guy". She then dumped my *** on the phone two days later to be with a guy she could do when she wanted instead of waiting two weeks to renew our freaking LIFE together. oh yeah positive ok... she didnt sleep with him first.

Answer 9

It can be good if you find the right person. I live in usa and my wife lives in taiwan. We see each other 5 times a year and communicate by telephone and computer everyday. It is great because I can practice my shaolin kung fu in peace and progress rapidly in my techniques while still maintaining balance and harmony with my wife.

Answer 10

It doesn't work trust me. It might feel nice in the beginning but after a while it becomes hard to deal with.