I was emotionally attached with a guy I really cared for. He apparently liked me too and tried to get me to confess my feelings without returning the same will to confess. I didn't tell him how I felt because I've never been in a relationship and was afraid of rejection. I was protecting myself because I had been hurt before. He got upset and became disgusted with me for reasons unclear. I tried to make amendments by writing a letter explaining my feelings, but I got no real reaction positive or negative. Sometimes he is friendly, and others he is strangely distant. I have tried showing how much I care, but he doesn't seem to realize it. A couple of months later, I mustered up enough courage to call to suggest meeting up and talking. He says he doesn't care and that no matter how hard I try, he just doesn't and that I'm wasting time. He was also drunk. He drinks excessively just about every weekend to the point of blackout. Does it seem he's taking his aggression out on me?
2006-12-25 08:27:34 · 12 answers · asked by The Maverick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically, he sounds like he's trying to make you feel as bad as possible, whilst he acts like the world is against him and he don't give a ****.
He's being a childish dick about it all. His drinking is also not helping and it a bad sign. This drinking excessively is obviously him deciding to drown his own sorrows or anger at life or whatever he's decide to drown out. he's just being self centered right now and giving himself the excuse to do it.
You're better off ignoring him and don't let him make you feel bad and continue to do so, he's being a jerk about it. You've done more than enough to apologise or to try and make amends and if you continue to go after him, he will continue to rub your nose in it by his offhand behaviours and moods.
LET HIM ALONE. Trust me, he's doing it on purpose and if he really doesn't care, then so be it, let him indulge himself. He's obviously too immature for a relationship anyway. Can you imagine him being in any relationship? All relationships have problems, ups and downs. He is far too in on himself and immature to bother with.
You're better of leaving him to himself, unless of course he pulls himself together and grows up. You have proven your own maturity and humility by admitting any wrong you may have done, he's just indulging himself and acting like a jerk.
2006-12-25 08:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own stories, their own problems, their own situations. But there's always one thing you should always stick with. BE YOURSELF. Don't be afraid of rejection. Would you rather stick with a guy you like, who is faking out who he really is just to be with you? Or would you be with an honest guy that who will never change? This guy you're talking about probably has his own problems already. Some people can't help it but take out their problems on other people. In other words, they're self-centered and cannot control their emotions. Whoever you decided to get with, be with, or whatnot, you should be accountable for that. Be responsible for your actions and be smart about them.
2006-12-25 16:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really be careful! Do you really want to be in a relationship with a drunk? It is obvious that he is not that into you. Count your losses and keep it moving.
2006-12-25 16:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His problems are booze and a girl who wants a give and take relationship when he wants a one way deal--everything goes his direction. Drunks are BAD news lady--very bad news.
2006-12-25 16:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a Psychology Grad student.
2006-12-25 16:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by InTROLLigent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you got more problems than him. Don't you have any self-worth? Why are you attach to such a loser, do you know what makes you also pumpkin? Move on cupcakes, they are so many men suitable for you.
2006-12-25 16:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to justify being drunk, using this situation with you.
2006-12-25 19:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by frankomty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is just trouble.... he's trying to string you along or mess with your head... you need to stop pursuing him... seruiously and if he's worth it, he'll eventually realize what he lost and call you back....
2006-12-25 16:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it hurts that you invested in him; but he obviously only thinks about himself.
2006-12-25 18:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he is setting you up to be a part time booty call.
2006-12-25 16:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by Peter X. Long 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋