2006-12-25 08:23:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE HAS TO HAVE CONFIDENCE IN HIMSELF
2006-12-25 08:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is life after this relationship
As hard as it is to believe right now, one day this relationship
will just be something you did once. You'll go on and you'll have what you create.
Get out of denial
Ask yourself: Do you really want this relationship
, or are you hanging onto it out of fear? If being alone is a scarier thought than staying in a broken relationship
, you're letting fear make your decisions. Are you mourning the loss of what your relationship
was, or what you thought relationship
would be?
Don't burn daylight
Grieving doesn't have a time frame on it, but life does. Whether you realize it or not, life is marching on. There comes a time when you have to accept the fact and say, "I've got to get on with my life, I've got to get on with raising my values, I've got to get on with putting things together where I can be a happy, meaningful, productive member of society." Find a way to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.
Take the catastrophic language out of your mind
"My life is over," "I've lost everything," and "Things are horrible" are labels that can have a powerful impact on how you feel. Recognize that it's factually not true. Your life isn't over, it's just a new beginning for you. Changing the negative tapes that run in your head can change how you physically feel.
Don't waste time with regret
At some point you have to say, "It is what it is." You can't do anything about what you did before; but you can do a lot about what you're doing now.
You've accepted it. Now it's time to jumpstart your life!
Define a new relationship with your ex for you.
Make a plan
Assess your situation financially, look at your resources to see what your options are in terms of housing, job and finances.
Create a support squad
Ask for help. People appreciate being asked for help. It's a gift to them to allow them to be there for you. Create a support squad of your closest friends who won't mind providing you with emotional support, professional guidance and ongoing inspiration. Realize that you're not the first person to go through this.
Get your resources and assets around you
Do everything you can to program yourself for success. Find out what your strengths and skills are and focus on them to help move you in a new and positive direction. Everybody has a personal truth — what you believe about yourself when nobody's watching. Remember that you will create the results in life that you believe you deserve.
Make your dream home
It's not the end of the world if you have to change houses. Know that you and your kids are going to create memories there and that's what makes it a dream home.
Find your authentic self
Although you may no longer be one half of a couple, you are still 100 percent the person who you are. Find that person again.
Find your passion
What is it that will make you excited to get out of bed every day? Make a list of what you can do to reach your goals.
Have some joy with your self
Choose to live with some fun in your new life. Create new memories with your children that will carry them into the future with self-esteem, confidence and happiness.
Protect yourself in the future
It's important to always look at a relationship and ask yourself, "What's it costing me to be in this relationship?" If you totally lose yourself in it, then the cost is too high.
2006-12-25 16:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.
Be yourself
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
2006-12-25 16:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by putnam127 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just be you and see if he notices you if not strike uo conversation become freinds and u know what to do from there!
2006-12-25 16:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mia Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself.
MOST guys hate fake girls.[some guys do like it but wutever it's not honest]
doesn't matter if u'r popular or have friends or wutever, if a guy likes you he likes you. you can't really MAKE him tho.
2006-12-25 16:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by SHANNON. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself. good luck, marry christmas and have a happy holidays
2006-12-25 16:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirt with the one you like
2006-12-25 16:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by mindi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already doing the right things.
2006-12-25 16:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋