there is this girl we've been bestfriends for like a year and we MATCH big time. i love almost everything about her. i started feeling for her few months ago and i told her. she was like i cant feel for you the same, i dont know what would happen in the future but now i dont have love feelings for you. i am very attached to her and as a friend i dont wanna lose her, however, i want to have her as a lover. sometimes i see hope and sometimes i cant even feel it. i'm confused. shall i wait to see if she liked me ( or is that impossible) ? sometimes i feel i owe my heart to give it a chance. i sometimes feel that if i tried to look for someone else then i'll be giving the hope away. i need to know wut to do. please help me. i'm desperate. is it possible that she could love me??
2006-12-25 08:15:42 · 18 answers · asked by confused lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for some one better
2006-12-25 10:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do match big time, like you said, then I guess you will eventually get together. But for now, she has not realised it yet or is not ready for a relationship with you. You can go for another girl in the meantime but stay friends with her. This will help her realize how much you mean to her by letting her feel your absence or letting her know that she needs more from you. And hey, you're young, at some point your paths will come together again and that time it might just stay together for good. But I'd always say, the best relationships are the one's that come after heartaches because we all learn and grow from them, and what better time to be with her, finally, than at the time that you are both mature and experienced with it.
2006-12-25 08:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by spoil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do an autopsy on your past relationships. Why didn't they work? Look at things honestly and learn from your mistakes.
Acknowledge what you own in a relationship. If you look at relationships that haven't worked, the common denominator is you! That means you own part of the problem. You create your own experience and control the choices you make. Your behavior and decisions have consequences. Take responsibility for them.
Be your authentic self. Your authentic self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment, or before the world starts pushing you around and telling you who you're supposed to be. Your fictional self is who you are when you have a social mask on to please everyone else — and it doesn't work if you're looking for a lasting relationship. Give yourself permission to be your authentic self.
Change your internal dialogue — what you're telling yourself in real time. You may be programming yourself for failure with negative thoughts. For example, if you call yourself a "freak magnet" while waiting for a blind date to show up, you're starting off with a negative internal message.
2006-12-25 08:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey guy, don't be silly, This is what happens in 90% of love matter's, keep going on. If you want to get something, you should lose something, first you should change you everything as she likes. Actually you both match with big time think that women's would not accept in first approach it self, we should take further more steps. Surely she will accept your love if it is a true love. LOVE NEVER FAILS.
2006-12-25 08:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Nasty_Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this theory that the first things people do in a relationship reveals their whole attitude. To be blunt, she has told you she doesn't want you, and it isn't likely to change in the future. Accept that she is a great friend, build your friendship by all means, but don't expect that she will ever be your lover.Don't keep thinking she is gonna change her mind, don't build yourself up with false hopes, sorry, but the sooner you accept this the happier you will be.Maybe she has some good friends who would be better suited to you, let her advise you and find you a date!
2006-12-25 08:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible! When I met my husband for the first time,I thought he was the biggest ****-en jerk I have ever met in my life,I couldn't stand him! I was friends with his brother.But, any way;the strangest thing happened,after totally not-liking him for about 5 yrs. Just one day out of the clear blue sky,I saw something else in him! I was suddenly really attracted to him,I didn't know what the heck was going on,but I let it be known that I was interested & guess what? Iv'e been married to that jerk for "it will be 13 yr. Feb.19th!!! So my advice to you, is hang in there,even if you date other people while you wait for her to come around.Don't give up hope! If it was ment to be,it will happen! Good Luck & Merry Christmas!
2006-12-25 08:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by baby_gail68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confused lover, while I make no claims to being an oracle, I believe there are several key words you are over looking. ("I can't" feel the same for you), ( " I don't" have love feelings for you now), these are very strong hints to you that it isn't going to happen the way you want it to. She will look for any reason not to fall in love with you. .
2006-12-25 10:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by sandowski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if she said she dosent feel the same way about you then let it go, maybe later on down the line she might but for now maybe you should just try to be friends if you pressure her to be the "lover" or whatever you wanna call it, she might no want to be friends with you anymore. and which one would you rather have?
2006-12-25 08:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never fall in love with a friend or never marry a fried ,
Always fall in love and the get friendly ,,,, coz friendship and relationship has its own beginnings and endings ...
2006-12-27 21:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not gonna happen dude.......let it go. You keep her as a friend with the hope it will be more, you are doing yourself an injustice.
2006-12-25 08:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm,well move on,and stay best friends,there will be other girls out there in the world that could match big time for you
2006-12-25 10:12:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋