If you tell somebody that you love them and don't really know how you feel, does it mean you don't really ?

Question

I can tell this guy that I love him without any problem, but I'm not sure I mean it. I don't really feel anything when I say it. I'm just responding to what he says. I'm just not sure what I feel any more. After 6 1/2 years, I think it's familiarity and laziness as much as love(it would take effort to leave him and I don't know if I really want to go to all that much trouble.). It doesn't make me sound very nice to be thinking like this, but what do you do when you don't know what you feel?

Answer 1

First and foremost, breath deeply for a few minutes here. You say you've been together for 6+ years. You can say you love him without really "feeling it" when you say it. Plus, you're not sure that you feel anything for this guy after all this time. Think back to what brought the two of you together in the first place. Was it love, the sex, the company or just the fact that there was someone there sharing your life with you at that time? This is one of those really hard times when you don't want to and yet you have to take a good, deep look at your relationship as well at your own self. Are you being lazy? Maybe. Not being nice? Perhaps. Are you unsure about all this? Absolutely. Before you do anything, take a really good look at yourself and think about all of this. Only you can decide what's right for you and your future. Remember: Just breathe.

Answer 2

I wonder if this relationship has gone sour??? Remember the first time you or he told you the "I Love you",,,what was that feeling like?? Did you "want" to say it back because you meant it? Its more difficult to be in and WORK in a relationship than to be single. There are two people sharing a bed perhaps,,living expenses,,realities of life that keep one another accountable for. Being single we do not have accountability's for any one but ourselves. Children not included here,,,I am just speaking on romantic relationships,,whether married or not. We must work at keeping our love alive with in a relationship. However before we enter into a relationship we should learn to map what is a desirable partner for our self. Write down what we expect. Write down our lifestyle. Write down wants, needs, desires, character, personality, hobbies, lifestyle yes the reality is who we are and what we are looking for. What could or would we consider to be the perfect mate for us to enjoy a happy lifetime with???

I did it two years ago....I fell in love this Christmas with some one I wrote about two years ago and who I had hope was out there just for me.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

if u don't fell anything intresting happening now imagine going on w/ him. after 6 1/2 years the guy probably thinks this thing is serios. so if u don't know how u fell tell him that. u don't want to b sending him the wrong message. right no it may feel like u're just saying, but wat r u going to do if he asks u to marry him and u're still not sure how u feel? then u'll have a huge problae on ur hands. try to figure out how u feel about him and let him in on ur confusion!
good luck!

Answer 4

no but dont be saying you are,when your not