She's hateful and obnoxious. She'll make really mean comments and rude remarks. I guess it's because of all the stress but it's just awful. It's all the time, but it's really bad on holidays or on vacations, times when our family is supposed to be having fun. I think I'm just gonna have to avoid her, but it's hard when we're living in the same house. So what should I do about it? thanks!
2006-12-25 07:06:00 · 10 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to capture her on videotape acting this way. Then show it to her when she's in a good mood. She may be oblivious to the fact. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words.
2006-12-25 07:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reading your profile you sound just SO perfect. I can not emgine why your Mother is so horrible. You would think she would be just simply wonderful to you at all times seving you and being there for you and doing her duties with a smile and making sure your life is simply grand.
I have some suggestions for you but they might be more than you can handle after all I get this feeling you are pretty self centered. But I will give it a shot anyway. Why don’t you ask yourself why your Mother who loves you behaves hateful and obnoxious to her own family she loves with her life? And then do something to change these feelings you have contributed to. I suggest you listen to the mean comments and rude remarks and figure out what you can do that would help her to not want to say those things. You admit there is allot of stress!! SO, why don’t you alleviate her stress. Have you ever gotten up a couple hours earlier than your Mom and got her work done for her. Did all the Laundry. Maybe stopped at the store on the way home and picked up the groceries, vacuumed, cleaned the bathrooms. Cleaned her car out for her.
Your Mom could have some health issues, you could shoot her? Don’t be such a brat! Take care of your Mom. Builds Character.
2006-12-25 15:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by skooter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do not take well on holidays, especially during Christmas time. She may be suffering from depression, which is sad and not good at all.
You may want to sit and talk with her, but, if this does not help, I suggest you go over to another relatives house. If this is the house everyone comes to to celebrate the holidays, maybe you can talk to another relative who would not mind hosting the gathering at their place.
If this does not work, go over to a friend's house. Why do you and your family need to be humiliated and dragged down by her?
There are so many other places you and others in your family that would rather be somewhere else.
So, I would try talking to her. If that fails, then, I would leave and hope the next get together will be at someone else home.
Let your mom be negative on her own.
2006-12-25 15:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
holidays are very stressful on many people and the way your mom is acting is pretty much the norm for the way people that are depressed act. it seems like she doesn't want to make HERSELF happy and she tries to express it by making everyone else miserable. why not talk to her when she is not so obnoxious. let her know that life is short and your time with her at home is not that long - that, before she knows it, you will be out on your own, and this is not the way you want to remember holidays at home. tell her how it hurts you and that you wish that she could open up to you to let you know WHY she gets like this. i know you don't mean to get this way but you are ruining your holiday and ours. can we please try harder to make it a happier time - i think it would make us all happier. i love you mom, and i want you to be happy, please let us help you. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-25 15:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you shouldn't avoid her. Maybe she is stressed or whatever you just don't care. Just be kind with her and keep your hypocrit smile on your face. If you feel it is so terrible, you can talk to her, she you mom you know, you should feel close to her. If there is obviously no solution to your problem, just imagine how your life is going to be with you avoiding her all the time etc. You must do something to be able to live with it.
2006-12-25 15:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your mother could use a little more help, because she's stressed out.
2006-12-25 15:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by autumn leaf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHY IS YOUR MOTHER SO OBNOXIOUS. YOU SAY SHE IS WORSE ON HOLIDAYS AND VACATION. ON VACATION SHE SHOULDN'T HAVE TOO MUCH STRESS. SHE MIGHT NEED SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP.
2006-12-25 15:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by bettys 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u could stay in ur room and find a way to intertain urself thats what i do or u could go to ur freinds house
2006-12-25 15:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by dragonosvel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CELEBRATE CHRISTMAS THE WAY YOU FEEL IS RIGHT AND IGNORE HER STUPIDITY. ITS NOT INSPIRING YOU ANY OR MAKING YOU A BETTER PERSON ANYWAY.
2006-12-25 15:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jiggley Wiggley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i hate it too
2006-12-25 15:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by i am not a lovely girl i am cute 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋