2006-12-25 07:02:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
With love and acceptance. Remember that he is what he is, gay or straight, and if he's gay, it's a rough road in this society. The way you behave around this revelation will make a huge difference to your son. Make it easy for him to tell you. Assure him that you love him no matter what. If he's gay, you may want to go to a PFLAG meeting, or at least get some literature (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays). Good luck.
2006-12-26 01:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Savvy Sue 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With a lot of love and understanding. I know from my friends and family's experience it helps if the subject is discussed openly at home, without embarassment or making fun. It can help that there are so many TV shows and films with positive representations of gay men and women that can be the starting point for a conversation.
It's also true that while discrimination still exists, in the UK at least, gay people with a positive family experience can be confident and happy and generally have very few negative encounters.
Make it a normal subject with everyone you know and you will spread tolerance throughout your community and society as a whole. Maybe someone you never suspected will see you as a confidant and come out to you... it's something to be proud of!
2006-12-27 04:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by aimee_vv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's best to take your son out of this situation and put him with his father at least for a little while, while things get figured out. I'm bi myself, but I'm giving you props for trying. Not many Christians are willing to tolerate. in the meantime, separate the three kids and get the story from each of them. Was your son really making advances on the stepson, or was it the other way around? My best friend was disowned because no one believed it to be the latter (even though I was witness). Please make it focused more on the fact that stepchildren shouldn't date, rather than focusing on the homosexuality aspect. Saying that the homosexuality is the main problem will only make your son shut down. When possible, have a one on one with your son. Don't bring your husband, your ex, or your stepchildren into this one. This conversation is mainly to get anything off of your and his chests, and it should not be a lecture on beliefs or what is wrong. It's a mature, adult conversation to discuss what happened and what needs to. Make sure he knows that. Ask him if there's other things going on in his life whether at school or with friends or behind your back that are bothering him. God bless you, and I hope things work out for the best.
2016-05-23 06:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he is gay he will still be your son and he wont have grown an extra head or limb overnight! That said has he hinted that he may be? We all go through a phase where we are confused about our sexuality when we are teens. I bet that you had a bit of a crush on a teacher of the same sex when you were 16. Just support him and love him whatever his sexuality turns out to be. take care. x
2006-12-26 05:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by cheekkkychik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it but whatever you do don't intimidate him or scare him, that will not help your cause at all. Being gay is not an easy thing whatsoever especially for a 16 year old guy. Make sure he knows that you care about him and that you always will no matter what happens.
2006-12-27 06:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, i wouldnt worry too much if i was you, basically because hes only 16, ok so that is old enough to know that boys should like girls and girls should like boys but we all must remember that teenagers go through a whole lot of strange emotions and often want to experiment, i remember being 16 and there was times i was confused about my sexuality. why exactly do you think hes gay?? what signs has he shown? if indeed he is gay then try to love him the same and understand him, otherwise you will lose him! Its easy to lose your son, they are independant unlike daughters who always come back to mommy. good luck!
2006-12-26 16:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let him come to you in his own time and show him love. its hard for him if he is i have helped many young gay tell there family there gay and there is no easy way. but the ones that have show love and not asked them to leave are all doing well now but sad to say the one that don't show love don't have a happy live if they don't attempt to end there live. look up your local gay friends support group they can help you.
plus the time are moving with gay wedding it is being excepted more.
Good Luck think of you.
2006-12-26 09:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by kencraftyskillhams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to handle! If your son is gay, so what he's still your son. The one who will have problems is your son. Society is still not fully accepting of gay people and he will get abuse just because he is gay. You need to support him and allow him to express himself without fear of his family disaproving of his sexuality. He needs love and support just like any other child.
2006-12-26 14:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by xray_daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is gay it don't matter, he is your son and the bond of love between parent and child should supersede any choice the child would ever make be it his sexual preference or career. We need to keep that perspective
2006-12-27 09:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought my daughter was at one time so I asked her and told her it wouldn't make any difference to me I would still love her after that she told me one day she would get married and have childen and she has I think it is best out in the open if you love one another you can take a chance and ask
2006-12-26 09:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋