the whole friends issue is not going well... i think that they like me and other times they ignore me. i have never had a boyfriend before and it feels that everone else around me has.. and my school is haveing a formal dance in a couple of weeks.. and i haven't been asked yet!!! I NEED HELP!!!
2006-12-25 06:41:44 · 23 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww... well, look, IGNORE the society around you, and do NOT follow what others follow if their beliefs do not parallel with yours. Maybe you're one of those smart and clever girls who is looking for a decent boyfriend, which can be REALLY hard to find in high school. So don't even let that worry you to the slightest, k?
I've been through the same situation as yours, concerning the friends issue... about how they ignore you one day and are friends with you when they probably are alone themselves or something. Don't call them "FRIENDS". Friends would never do that to you. Try searching for better friends. Just go to school, do your work on time, mind your own business, respect others and yourself, and just BE yourself.
As for the dance, if you REALLY wanna go, deep down inside your heart, you're craving to go for the dance, or just wanna go even if you're not dying to, then I suggest you go with a GOOD male friend or something. Don't be scared to ask him to take you to the dance; it's worth a try, isn't it?
Good luck! And don't worry; high school ends JUST like that! It seems as though I started it yesterday and finished it today! Just be a good girl, to yourself and to others, and everything will go smoothly. Avoid peer pressure, by the way.... It ruins everything! Always stand up for your true feelings, and don't give into anything if you wish not to do/say it, ok?
2006-12-25 06:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
i am 20 years old, went to high school not too long ago and know how it is. First do NOT bring a gun to school, second you can calm down, you have nothing to worry about. If there is a boy you like and he seems to like you then you ask him to the dance. if not then just go alone and meet a boy there or dont go at all. your friends are going thru the hard time just like you are so you need to give them a break too. your friends will get better as time goes on. I also suggest not talking to any1 privately about this matter as there are some people that seem trusting but later you may find out they are not... be wary of people online. Have a good day and a Merry Christmas. :)
2006-12-25 14:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Chris S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear heart...life presents itself as it does...it's all part of the the growing process. You say high school sucks...well, others on this site would say the same of work, raising a family, relationships. You say you have never had a boyfriend...others on this site are maybe in their 30's + and have never been married, have not yet found that authentic love . . . The point is, focus to learning about how to deal with life events...they happen at any time, at any age. Yet, you're a teen, a developing mind...heart hugs to you. I have a friend whose daughter was not dating anyone, so she and some friends made plans and went to the special event dance together. Just a thought. I'm sure you'll get some enhancing in other postings to your question. Peace dear one.
2006-12-25 14:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh the "highschool expierence" something we all must endure. Don't worry about not having a boyfriend. Highschool relationships are way over rated and with college and military afterwards things tend to change considerable once out of highschool. Those who once teased and belittled you will become your friends (I even dated a guy for 6 months who was my tormentor in jr. high and highschool during our 20s), life on the outside of highschool is the great equlizer. Look at all of the kids in the hallways of your school and try to picture them some 20 years in the future at a class reunion. (rent Romie and Michelle's Highschool reunion for some insight) If you don't have a date for the dance and really want to go, go by yourself. Dance with whomever asks (beleive me they DO ask) and have a good time.
2006-12-25 14:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it one day at a time. The world will not end if you do not go to a formal and everyone else does not have a bf/gf. The social scene is tough when you feel outside it, but there are many who seem to be inside that feel the same way. Concentrate on your classes. Do your schoolwork and stop worrying over the social stuff. It will sort itself out.
2006-12-25 14:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the the whole social scene isnt working for you, then just focus on your grades. This might be a time to excel in school academics. You can really be suprised how the social thing can creep up on you while your attention is on other things. Believe me. Then you end up with a double bonus, good grades , and an alright social life.
2006-12-25 14:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Terel_55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing to remember about high school......it's a slightly larger playground than middle school which was a slightly larger playground than the playpen of elementary school. If you want to seriously enjoy high school, spend some time considering who you are and choose friends most like the basic you, the you that you are when you're just hanging out with your family. Pay attention to your gut feeling about people and situations....if it doesn't feel right, if it makes you feel anxious, if THEY make you feel anxious then they and IT are not the right things for you. As for boyfriends......in high school there are an awful lot of girls who let themselves be defined by whether or not they have a boyfriend and who that boyfriend is in the social structure of high school. You don't have a boyfriend because you haven't found one who appeals to the core you. I'm actually glad that you're not just casting about for someone, anyone! who will fit the bill of boyfriend who makes you feel like you're a person simply because you have a boyfriend. I've always found that creepy how girls will do that.
As for the dance....is it CRITICAL that someone ask you or do you think it's alright for you to ask someone of YOUR choosing. I mean, as time draws near, if you're going to feel desperate about it, you might end up with someone to go with you who isn't your ideal date and that's not fair to him or you.
The absolute coolest girls in high school are not just cute. They're proactive, go after what they want, don't let a guy define them, look up and ahead to the next level. They are always the ones who unfailingly demonstrate a comfort with themselves and courage of conviction. Always.
2006-12-25 14:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by badasslilnici 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey if things go bad somewhere along the line they must get better.
Life is a rollercoaster
As for boyfriends and friends:
Be yourself
Be assertive
Be Confident
Hey I should know I am going through the same sort of thing
PS you need to chill
listen to the coke zero commercial
2006-12-25 14:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cool High School kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems....except that I'm a guy. But with the dance thing, I can help you. I think you should make the first move and ask some guy to the dance. We LOVE it when a girl makes the first move!
2006-12-25 14:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone has the whole friend problem but I think its best to ask them whats going on. It works for me. And as for the whole boyfriend thing, if you like a guy start talking to him and go from there. It works.
2006-12-25 14:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by soccer girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋