All my family lives about 683 miles south of here. All my friends have their own families or boyfriends to hang out with and I really have no where to go. I lost my husband in 2004 and I'm not an elderly person or anything, I am only 33. What would you do if you were me? Oh, and I am a Christian, so I won't be going to any bars if thats whats coming to your mind. Any suggestions?
2006-12-25 06:38:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Personally, I would prefer to spend my Christmas assisting in a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter. As it is, I live in a very small town (less than 600 people) and there are neither in my area. Plus I have kids, so I've got to do the whole Christmas charade even though I don't care to.
In your situation I would do exactly as I just stated. Brightening the day of another is a gift not only for the recipient, but for your own spirit as well. A very Merry Christmas to you dear.
2006-12-25 06:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry for your loss. One reason people suffer holiday depression is the expectation that holidays such as Christmas are supposed to be joyful special social occiaions and if they're not, sometihng's wrong. There's a lot of unnecessary social expectations there, some of them unrealisitic.
I agree with others' suggestions that if you feel a need for social contact, go hang out with friends even if they do have families and boyfriends and such. Focus on others, not on yourself, because depression is often aggrivated by focusing on one's internal states.
As an Aspie (a person with Asperger's Syndrome, a form of high functioning autism), I find social occaisions and deviations from my routine very difficult, and I used to be quite miserable at Christmas. Since I've recognised and let go of the notions that holidays are speical occiaions for doing special social things, I'm free of expectations and thus free of disappointments. I'm perfectly ok with doing the same things for Christmas as I do for any other day, except for those things which I can't do on account of the holiday. Don't know if this will help for you, but I'm mentioning it in case it does.
2006-12-25 14:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joni DaNerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just me. I would try to find others in simular (or worse) situations. Get a small group together and each donate some food and enjoy together. Believe it or not, but the elderly are usually good company. Try helping those less fortunate and you might be surprised how good it makes you feel (rather that spending the time alone) No disrespect intended. I sometimes enjoy spending the time alone but then sometimes I get lonely also. Good luck and --plan ahead. So sorry if you spent today alone. Seriously.
2006-12-25 14:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek out an elderly member of your Christian community who may also be alone.
Seek out a family with many children who are far from relatives.
Go to a homeless shelter, and serve Christmas dinner and give presents!
Charity and generosity will revive the Spirit of Jesus.
Merry Christmas. God bless you.
2006-12-25 14:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lives7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-25 14:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stay home and probably play on the computer. In fact, I would see no reason to ever leave the house again without my husband, my kids, and my family. I'm already a loner anyway. If you take those important people out of my life then I'd be content to just stay in my home forever and ever with my only friend the computer.
2006-12-25 14:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lived that way for ten years--always had friends invite me to their houses, and what's wrong with a bar? I know a lot of christians who go to bars, and I had one especially good christmas when I went to a favorite bar of mine with one of my best friends and everyone in the place formed a family just for that one magical christmas night--it was quite beautiful, and I highly reccommend it!
2006-12-25 14:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your story really touched me i hope that you find your comfort somewhere, noone likes to spend the season alone, you should call a coworker or possibly a roommate, maybe watch a funny movie and take advantage of your alone time, get undreessed turn the lights down wrap up in a blanket and relax, good luck im sure that by this time next year you will have someone near to your heart to keep you warm, keep looking up beautiful, everything is gonna be ok remember time heals, and it will
2006-12-25 14:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, all I have going today is laundry, and I might go for a hike at Silver Creek Falls, or maby over to the range to burn offf some rounds. Maby go see the,Night at the Museum movie.
2006-12-25 14:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jungleroy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually I would go to a friends house and spend it with their family. I sympathize with you and hope you can find somethig to do to keep your mind happy. Text message all your family & friends merry xmas, call family and talk to them, although youare by yourself. Making yourself a holiday meal with music playing keep you busy and allows the day to go by.
2006-12-25 14:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋