Our relationship isn't just about sex. We frequently go together to movies, dinner, bowling, theme parks, carnivals, shopping. Isn't this misleading. This has been going on for the last year and a half.I even met the majority of his family and spent quality time with them.
2006-12-25 06:32:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like maybe you have prompted him for a serious talk or two. But after over a year, this line doesnt sound very directly engaging and 'i like you but' is a cop out for intimacy with your situation (you're a single mother right?) and doesnt take much into consideration in that regard.
It is propperly selfish, so theres nothing to hate him for in that regard. But still, its an immature, squeemish statement. I would consider engaging him a couple more times with serious talks about the future to be sure before you make your next correct move of leaving him and then nosing around a tad for someone more competent and considerate. Don't be doing the booty call thing with him in the future when you start dating other guys. Im sure thats a situation he'd enjoy.
I would tell you good luck but I dont think you'll need it.
2006-12-25 06:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by jorluke 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay. You have a Master's. You are single, pretty and most likely pretty well established. You seem to be independent as well. I have found that if you whine around and are very demanding and can't stand on your own two feet, guys like it more. Take my brother. Great job as an engineer. Good looking. Nice home. Sweet. He was dating a pretty girl who had a wonderful job and was independent. He dumped her and married a completely worthless Peg Bundy who literally sits on her butt all day watching soaps and sucking down bon bons. My BFF. PhD in computer science. Could get any woman. Picks one that can't pick out a shirt on her own. I think guys like to feel needed and when they don't, it freaks them out. Maybe you need to look somewhere else for guys. And, most importantly, find one that is on the same level as you intellectually. Good luck. Hope my theory has helped.
2016-05-23 06:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by DawnKarin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does that mean he broke up with you or did he just say he didn't want the relationship to become serious? He might just think that serious relationship means making plans for marriage and such and if that's what he means then I guess if it isn't broken, don't fix it.
Be careful though of a dead-end relationship. No use dating somebody that long if you're not working toward marriage eventually. So you need to know where each other stand as far as future intentions.
2006-12-25 06:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by GStar4 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not misleading since he has been very upfront with you and told you where he stands. I am not saying it doesn't hurt, but he has been honest. Now it is up to you, do you want to wait around while he gets ready? Which could be a very long time, or do you want to move on with your life. It hurts, you like him, probably love him, but he is being very honest with you, now you need to sit back and think things through. Remeber, he has told you where he stands, you can't change that. I say start seeing other people, it will take a while to get over him, but you will. Good luck.
2006-12-25 06:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever read "What Men Want"? Sounds like you are the 'good for now' girl. Men WILL commit to a serious relationship IF they are serious about you...love you.
So, apparently, he considers you good company and likes you but doesn't feel strongly enough about you to want the relationship to go any further... Sorry.
If you want to continue in such a relationship and can accept that he will never be serious, then enjoy the moments....but I would suggest you date others.
Good luck.
2006-12-25 06:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's probably got at least 2 more like you.
I guess the good part is, at least he's honest enough to say that he doesn't want to commit. I wouldn't waste my cookies on him. If you're looking for a real relationship, let this guy go, move around and hope that he hasn't given you anything that you can't get rid of...
2006-12-25 06:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by I Think 4 Me 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He probably goes with you to these places as a friend, and isn't interested in wearing a "boyfriend" label. Sounds like an FwB relationship to me. But he might change his mind later.
2006-12-25 08:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you're dating but not serious. You're being used. If what you want is to be serious and after a year and a half it isn't you need to end it altogether. He needs to know you're not a back up date for fun and sex.
2006-12-25 06:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Translation: I like having sex with you and the companionship, but I'm going to dump you when something better comes along.
2006-12-25 06:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
seems that you are a pal more than a girl friend material .if you don't want to get hurt get out .he is using you for his entertainment and that is all.
2006-12-25 06:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by realistic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋