My mom died 4 yrs ago & I still can't get over being sad almost all the time. What can I do to stop this pain?

Question

Me and my mom were really close, she was my best friend and my shoulder to lean on when anything went wrong.

Answer 1

Oh Hon, my mom has been gone 5 years and I still miss her every day. Try to remember that her love for you will stay with you for the rest of your life. The voice will replay sometimes in your dreams. But... as a Mom I know none of us would want to ever ever be the cause of saddness. "Love us, but let us go".
Remember her, honor her, in the best possible way. hold your head up and be the best person you can. Find a child that hasn't
known how it feels to be loved as you were and give them a taste
of the amazing gift that your mother gave to you. So many kids belong to families without love or compassion. They are without
someone to care. Be a big sister or a mentor. Your mother would be proud.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry. It sounds like you have a good husband. I'm sure your Mom was happy that you found a good husband and that she had such a large family. Time will help you feel better, although you'll probably always feel a bit of pain when you think about your Mom being gone. Remember the happiest days.

Answer 3

Losing a parent is never easy at any age especially if you were close. There are several things you can do to help yourself feel better (depending on your age).
You can -- talk to a professional grief counselor
talk to your dad, an aunt or uncle or a sibling
Join Big Sisters of America
Do something your mom would be proud of (plant a garden, draw, paint, volunteer at the local rest home)
Do something to honor your mother's memory (raise money for a charity)
Take a walk to a pretty spot and talk to your mom.

Answer 4

My mother died 4 years ago just before Christmas. So Christmas is a hard time for all of us. The pain Will pass it takes a while. My girl friend dumped after Christmas. So it was a bad year. You might try talking to a professional

Answer 5

Try to picture how your mom would feel if she knew that you are still so sad after her passing. She'd want you to get on with your life, meet new friends and make her proud by living the way she taught you to live. Honor her memory by getting out there and living life again! You can still take time to honor her memory from time to time, but don't let that grief take over your life.

If you still have trouble getting passed your grief, maybe you could see a counselor to help you to come to terms with your feelings.

Good luck and Merry Christmas!

Answer 6

First off I am very sorry for your lost. I think you first have to realize that you will alway's miss your mom and everyone in your position would be sad. Alot of people and even myself turn to god when problems come up and I think that would be good for you. I am sure your mom dosen't want you to grieve for her, I know losing someone in your family can be hard to get over but you have to move on because you have a life to live and sometimes when you hold on to things it's hard to move forward with your life. You will get through this just turn to god and believe in yourself in everything you do. I wish the best for with everthing.

Answer 7

Just let the pain come. I know you probably don't think it is pleaseant but eventually it will become easier. It is hard to lose someone we are so close to. There is nothing wrong with your feelings. One thing I did after I got to know my dad better and it turned out I really liked him, was after his death I began keeping a journal and entitled it "dear dad". I very often "talk" to him about decisions I'm having trouble making which helps in making them. Sounds like you and your mom had a very special relationship, you were very lucky.

Answer 8

I understand completely. My mom died four years ago as well, and she and I didn't always agree on things, but about two years before she died, we got really close and I let her know it.

What I did that year, and every year since then, is to light a candle on her birthday. I think about my mom every day, but on that day, I kinda talk to her, and let her know what's going on while that candle is burning. If you know how old she was when she died, let the candle burn that long, i.e.: my mom died at 74, so I let my candle burn for 74 minutes. At the end of 74 minutes, I blow it out, and say a short prayer to God thanking Him for letting me have such a wonderful, smart and funny woman as my mother.

Do what you want to do while that candle is burning. You're never going to forget your mother, but this makes it a little easier to bear. Good luck.

Answer 9

She would want you to carry on, gaining strength from that which she gave you, that you in turn would/will become that which she was: apparently a woman of strength, becoming someone that others could lean upon when things go wrong for them.

Remember that she is with you. That you have this feeling is indicative that she gave you significant things in life which may not yet manifest themselves. Unfortunately, demise of loved ones is a significant part of life.

Answer 10

I have the same.My mother died 2 years ago.The only comfort we have is: to know that they are at the heaven with God,in a better life than us here in planet earth.And also we know that angels of God,Jesus and God, are taking care about us.I am sorry you mother passed away too.Be strong,think your mom is now in a better place, and in peace.God bless you every single day in your present life; and in the year 2007;and God comfort you every day.I read the Bible and I go to church too;that help me a lot.God bless you.