I know the proper thing to do, to ask for the fathers(parents) permission/blessing before a engagement ring but what about a promise ring "Is all that needed"?
2006-12-25 06:25:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's very mature of you to be thinking of this. Good Job!!
The blessing of the parents is a custom or tradition and is not required. People do it because it is a symbolic ritual of a change in the relationship.
I think it would be very nice (and probably earn you some points with the parents) if you spoke to them before giving the ring. Something like...."Mr & Mrs. Smith, I love (care very much for etc) your daughter, Mary. When we finish college (or some other time frame) I intend for us to be properly engaged and married. I would like to give her a promise ring as a token of my intention that she can wear until then. I came today to explain my intentions and ask for your blessing.
This should eleminate any problems with her parents misunderstanding what you mean by giving the promise ring and also show them that you are acting in a thoughtful and mature manner. Think for a minute what might happen if you don't speak with her parents....she comes home with a ring, they freak out...you're too young, you haven't finished school (whatever) OMG are you pregnant?? Or worse, they start picking out her china and have a date set before you are ready... You get the idea. A simple conversation makes everyone clear and ensures a happy and successful advancement to your relationship.
Best wishes to you!
2006-12-25 11:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by onenonblonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Father Daughter Promise Ring
2016-11-16 13:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.. I never really knew the big deal about promise rings. So, no I don't see why you would have to ask permission at all- I didn't think it was anything like being engaged. I always thought of promise rings as just a symbol of your love. I don't think you need permission for that- maybe I'm wrong?
2006-12-25 13:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No permission needed before a promise ring.
2006-12-25 06:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think promise rings are a crock. They mean that you are not ready yet to commit,so here's a ring that will show you i'll be ready way in the future and get your hopes up. Also, everyone else will freak out and think you're engaged. When you break up you think, why didn't we just wait until we were ready and do it with one ring. in my opinion DON'T ask her dad even if you do, but you really should steer clear of rings until it's the big one. Save your money and get her a nice bracelet...she'll thank you in the long run!
2006-12-25 11:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm old school, I don't get the deal about the promise ring, why is it different from the engagement ring. With either you can still change your mind, or is like when i was young and we went "steady". If that's it, I wore the boys class ring.
2006-12-25 06:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how traditional her family is. If they are just a normal family then you can just ask her because its a pre-engagement ring, but then you should ask her dad before the engagement ring. If they are very traditional ask for both.
2006-12-25 06:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promise earrings are a waste. What you're telling anybody with the help of giving her a promise ring is 'ok, we are like, completely in love, and, like, we wanna be at the same time for, like, ever, yet we are too youthful to, like, get married and stuff so, like, im giving her this ring cos, like, we are extremely extremely boyfriend and female friend, and prefer, i extremely love her and, like, she loves me, and this ring is, like, me promising her that we are able to be, like, at the same time perpetually and ever ... you recognize what i recommend?' that's an engagement ring-lite, and that's meaningless. keep your money, and do not supply her a ring until eventually you're waiting to get married. best of success !
2016-12-01 04:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by santella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to look at it is it's better to be safe than sorry. Ask the Father if you aren't sure, because you can look alot better in the parents eyes if you ask, and it's always polite. It's never wrong to be extremely polite.
2006-12-25 06:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by JordanDDunn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just propose to her. What is this promise ring stuff? I like you and I promise to propose to you?
2006-12-25 06:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋