My ex bf was the one who dumped me, so I was really shocked when he told me that he wants to see me and "meet up". He called me, and planned the whole thing (a movie). I assumed there would be coffee afterwards since after one year I thought he wanted to really talk & catch up. He picked up, but he never opened any doors for me, he walked ahead of me, & after the movie he just drove me home. He never walked me to my door & just said "merry Christmas". He never tried to even hug me so I just shook his hand & said bye. I felt like trash after the date, he treated me bad, like s**t. He would open doors & walk me to my door when we were going out, but I thought he would be a gentlemen again cuz of all the effort he put in to set up this date, by calling & picking me up. I thought after the movie, we would have coffee and that he would say either 1) I want u back, or 2) I wanna be friends. I thought #2 is what he would say. Neither of this happened. WHY did he do that & treat me like that?
2006-12-25 06:22:18 · 16 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On the way home, I finally asked him why did he wanna meet up w/ me after all this time & he said 'u know just to hang out, I wanna see u every once in awhile'. He really meant, I wanna see u every year, on my terms & I'll treat u like this. I went home & decided that I don't even wanna see him once a yr & that I had to tell him this & how he treated me bad. So I went on msn aftre the date and I told him exactly how he made me feel. I said "You know, I honestly did wanna see u, & I did kinda miss u, & even though u'r a nice guy, after the way u treated me today, the way u rushed it, & the way u said bye in the car, we don't even need to see each other once a year, we should pretend like today was our final goodbye." He was shocked & kept saying sorry. I finally just said bye & logged out. Am I right or did I overreact? and should I fix it? By the way, when we were dating it never went past kissing cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage.
2006-12-25 06:26:54 · update #1
You didn't over react you just told him how you felt and he thought he could just go and take you out whenever he wanted to. And I am glad you did that and learned an important lesson. From now own when you meet a guy, try to make friends with him first and try to know how he is and you won't go thru this again. ALSo remember even the good looking rock hard abs guys are abusive and intolerable too. ANd some think you should do what they tell you when and how. SO move on and let this loser blow away in the wind
2006-12-25 06:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not react in a negative way. Even though you are no longer together there is no reason why he should not treat you with courtesy. Good for you to have told him. Why would you want to continue a friendship with him? And he did not even take time to communicate his intentions toward you. Maybe he still wants to keep in touch just because he never had sex with you secretly hoping he would score sometime with no intent of wanting to get back together. I know it is hard because you might have feelings for him still. Cut all ties. It will be easier for you to forget him. I think he knows that you are still weak in the knees when you are with him and wants to keep seeing you so he could eventually have sex with you. Be strong. You deserve better.
2006-12-25 14:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to be your bf again but isn't sure how you feel.
Maybe he has a lot of pride and didn't want to reveal his feelings and be embarrassed that you don't feel the same way.
Maybe he was waiting for you to make the first move.
If you want the bf/gf relationship and you see him again....next time grab him, hug him, kiss him, talk to him, or whatever it takes to let him know how you feel.
Men can be so weird.
Good luck.
2006-12-25 14:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are just so confused its hard for them to even know what they are doing. it seems to me that maybe he was just seeing if he still had feelings for you. or maybe he wanted sex but didn't have enough courage to ask you or make a move. either way he was a jerk so next time just let the phone ring!!
2006-12-25 14:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by felita2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be unsure of how he is supposed to act. He may be trying to treat you like a friend and he may not want you to get the wrong idea of what he wants yours and his relationship to be like. I would ask him about it though and see how he feels.
2006-12-25 14:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Smith10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a frickin' loser. Move on. You deserve better. Quit letting him use the old mind game tricks on you. Its hard on your self esteem. Move on.
2006-12-25 14:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. good question. maybe he thought he wanted you back. but after spending the evening with you, he knew that he didnt. or maybe he just wanted to spend some time with you but didnt want you to think there was anything more to it than that.
2006-12-25 14:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by DEVIL IN A BLUE DRESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was kind of a weird experience in my opinion, but I'd just take it in stride because you guys broke up a year ago so it's not like you can expect anything of him, and you're over him, right? ^_^
2006-12-25 14:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by GStar4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he didnt do that because maybe he thought u had a boyfriend and thought that u just wanted to be friends
2006-12-25 14:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you read into "catching up" That is all he wanted to do. He didn't want to get back together with you.
2006-12-25 14:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋