ok my girlfriend has had a abusive past and at first every thing was good now i get the silent treatment for no reason & when i ask her whats wrong she says things like i neglect her and im cold to her but when she needs something i try to be there and she is constantly putting me down for no reason how can she say i love you then ***** me out the next i think she might be way out there for blaming me and she says the same of me forgets things that have happened .and lately she has been talking to her ex via txt and cell i felt something funny so i looked up phone records and found his number when i confronted her she threw a fit saying i violated her and says nothing is going on but the txt msg say different is she sick or sick of me ?
2006-12-25 06:02:47 · 5 answers · asked by scottysnaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like something is definately up. Sorry. Even if she isn't starting something up again with her ex, there are some things going on that you shouldn't have to go through. Ask her to go to couple's counseling with you and if she refuses, let her go. It's a no win situation and life is too short to live with that kind of a relationship. You can't make her get help for herself, but you can offer and offer to be there for her. Just don't allow yourself to be the one being emotionally abused when it is all said and done.
2006-12-25 06:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl has a big problem and it is not up to you to fix, she needs professional counselling, and I am sorry but it doesn't look to good for you, you need to tell her that you respect her but she needs help with her insecurities, and until she gets help you can not be there for her,All she will do is throw fits and become more abusive as time goes on, it is a power thing with her. Warning do not try to help her your self. it will only become a disaster, this is some thing she has to admit and do for herself
2006-12-25 14:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like she's looking for a reason to leave,so give her one.Let her leave because she's not happy with you.But you had no right to spy on her that shows a lack of trust even if you were right or not.
2006-12-25 14:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some issues. Ask yourself if you deserve to be in this kind of relationship. Emotional roller coaster rides are never fun.
2006-12-25 14:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude!!
i think only u have the solution to this problem...
try givin her more time...
dont force her to do things that u like..
do things that she likes...
try sharing most of the time that u can together..
nd am sure it will be fine soon..
do it as soon as possible or else it would be too late...
2006-12-25 14:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Achin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋