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Question

my boyfriend has been wanting me out of his house for a while. i finally left when i just couldnt take being somewhere unwanted during the holidays. he encouraged me to change my life for him. Switched my bank, full time job. i took care of him, his pets and his house for him, bought him food, bbq, clothes. he was very in love at one point. we had am amazing friendship and sex life. ive never stopped loving him. after a while he was just was at bars every night. i know I should just give up. but we had the same goals to leave the state i ended a lease at an apt for him. i am homeless & have a job near his house and no where to live and am living out of a hotel after the holidays. he says his brother is moving in the 1st to his house and i couldnt have lived their anyways with him there. but i dont think his bro will be able to. he backed into my car a while ago owes me for the money he borrowed for the breaks in his car. WHAT can do or say to let him let me live with him again

Answer 1

Newsflash:

Stop FIXING his life and start fixing yours.

Your boyfriend has obviously found someone who can sex him better than you, but this fact does NOT make you worthless. Gullible maybe. Naive -- HELL YES, but worthless -- NO!

I fail to see why anyone (male or female) would give every single key of their life over to another human being who could die or "change their mind" the next day.

We are humans. We make decisions, and change our minds frequently. In some cases, we change our values as well.

The first mistake you made was to alter your career trajectory, your life, and your goals for a man.

You effectively removed your security and safety net for the POSSIBILITY of being with an alleged man. Keep in mind, that, in fact, he was nothing more a parasite.

There is nothing wrong with accommodating someone in your life, but if you have to give up your job, your income, and your identity to become someone's caretaker -- then you should introduce them to a curb.

Your best bet is to pick up the pieces and re-establish your career. Keep the lesson but ditch the experience AND THE PARASITE. No man is worth sacrificing your livelihood and your security over.

Sorry to break it down like this, but you need to hear this from another man.

Answer 2

I think you should cut your losses and realize that hes probably not the guy for you afterall. If hes been so mean to you and made you feel so horrible around the holidays and hes not worried about you being homeless, is he really that great? Start your life over and if he wakes up and realizes what a big mistake hes made, hell find and change for you. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything you can say or do to move back in. Do you really want to? It sounds like it's over and long over do! Move on with your life, it's not easy but the sooner you start the sooner you'll be in a better place!

Answer 4

why would you want to live him???? seek help immediately if you honestly want to go back to this jerk. you dont need that kind of crap in your life!! take the jerk to court and the get the money you are owed, then look into government housing. you only pay rent based on your income, if you don't make much then you don't pay much and they can't throw you out if you don't have a job. please get counseling and stay away from him!!!!!!!! you are better off on your own then taking abuse from a scum bag!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!! i know you can do this!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Being a victim is fate! Remaining one is your choice . Leave him and look for some one who deserves your love. You also deserve better.

Answer 6

it seems to me that u shud drop his sorry behind.
i can totally understand where u r cumn 4rm, but if u truly love him all u really want is for them to be happy.....even if its not w/u.
hope to hear 4rm u l8er.
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