My bf and I were on and off 3 times during our one-year-long relationship(we are long distance).I made big mistakes by chasing him back and making things easy for him every time. I thought i was being considerate but he was losing respect for me although i have lots of admirers and he's not a ladys' man.I think the main reason i love him so much is b/c he is my 1st bf;i wanna work it out. 2 weeks ago we broke up again. It's his finals week,he's under a lot of stress and i called too much. i got mad when he didnt pick it up and didnt return the call and when i confronted him with it he got even more stressful(since he's not been doing very well in college).Before the final, he's all that he loves me so much and all of a sudden he's like i cant see a future with you and i want out before it has the potential of lingering around forever(i'm also his 1st gf).This time i'm definitely not gonna beg or call him or chat online first,i wonder if he'll ever come back to me after say 2 months?
2006-12-25 04:37:12 · 9 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And he likes to play games too. Even if he wants me back, in his text message or voice mail to me, he always sounds non-chalant and keeps it short, always trying to play cool and waiting for me to initiate the first move!
2006-12-25 04:37:35 · update #1
He is stringing you along because you are too easy. He can call you up for a quick fix and you will drop everything to accommodate. It sounds like you are still in high school. Stay out of serious relationships. Have fun and enjoy being young without commitment. There is plenty of time for that later in life.
2006-12-25 04:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My particular view is that is you find you are "chasing" someone a lot then it probably means you are more into them than they are into you - you then need to make up your mind if you can handle that, or, which is my advice, you look for someone who likes you as much as you like them.
The other aspect is games playing - Im really not a fan of that and I think its best to avoid people like that. What you really want from a relationship is mutual respect trust and games playing is not part of that.
Yes, as your first b/f you will have an extra pull toward this guy, but I think its important not to get mucked around, so my advice would be to try to move on (I know its hard!) and definitely dont go chasing him again
2006-12-25 04:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Matt D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This e-mail proves that manlaw works.
Your "ex" is your "ex" for a reason and while you are "musing" over you "ex" -- he is nothing more than amused at his greatness.
While I can not reveal the entire edicts of manlaw, I will give you a Christmas gift.
Manlaw prohibits men from communicating with their "ex" unless she is his "baby momma" or "she is his #2" lovingly referred to as "sloppy seconds".
A man may keep a "sloppy second" as a "booty call" back-up plan in case his #1 isn't providing the sex on an "as-needed" basis.
Note: In your situation, this works out extremely well since you are long-distance and he can get his freak on with his girl at college when you are acting up.
Manlaw also states that once a "sloppy second" ALWAYS a "sloppy second". No exceptions.
And finally, your man treats you like a jerk because we men can sense weakness THE EXACT SAME WAY women can sense CONFIDENCE.
If you put up with our 'ish, then we will continue to defecate on you at our pleasure.
Manlaw allows men to "get around" when our women refuse to move on.
Sorry, but it is MANLAW
2006-12-25 04:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see... long distance relationship... you fight and break up all the time... you chase him and he doesn't even act like he's interested in you... why are you even wasting another second of your precious life thinking about this guy? There are lots of other guys out there, and meanwhile, there are lots of other things worth doing. Go read a book or something. Have a great Christmas!
2006-12-25 04:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will definatly come decrease back, yet you should be good, this is the las time, you cant be that one which will constantly provide in to him, he's an ***, and hes taking great thing approximately you, enable him pass, recover from him, theres hundreds of thousands of fellows obtainable, it will be much less complicated for you in looking yet another guy. you ought to recover from him, and the only thank you to do it quite is TIME. provide it time and you gets everthing you deserve. in case you enable him come decrease back than you're able to pass over that one guy which will take care of you like the queen you quite are. Time. good good fortune
2016-11-23 16:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him like a stone girl. ur so much better than him. he doesnt deserve a girl like you. i remember i broke up with my first bf and i wanted to try to work it out too, it's natural to feel that way but sometimes it's just not meant to be. i understand he's under a lot of stress but he's not supposed to take it out on you. if he's gonna be a jerk than you should just move on and find someone who will really appreciate you as a person, cuz he obviously cant do that for you. i really hope you find what you're looking for, just please dont try to find it in him.
Good Luck!
2006-12-25 04:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Danie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's not grown up enough. Find someone else that honestly cares for you and isn't into playing games.
2006-12-25 04:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you "can t see a future with him".......why concern yourself of him? He obviously isnt that "into you"......unless its to play head games with.........or bed games.
2006-12-25 04:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by purefire41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and what is your point. You want to have your relaitonship your way or your not gonna have one . smart
2006-12-25 04:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋