We are coworkers and I gave her a nice compliment saying I enjoy being around her. She said "that's so sweet." So as I left she went and asked one of my coworker friends if I had a cursh on her. My friend said yes. She said well I think he's cute. My friend told me she thinks i'm cute so I went and told her that I have a crush on her. She said "that's so sweet. She gave me a hug and after we hug I told her I would of told her sooner, but she you have a boyfriend. She didn't say anything about that really. So the next day she starts to flirt a lilttle. I didn't flirt back because she has a boyfriend.I gave this girl this letter well here's what it said When we first talk and after the conversation was over I started to like you. So everytime when you talk to me I get butterflies and feel tigly inside. Also when we make eye contact I get nervous. That's why you see me not making too much eye contact with you. I enjoy your company. I still have a crush on you.When you told me you might get another job I was sad. You're such a sweet,kind, and caring person. Your very pretty.You have such a beautiful smile and it makes me smile too. You have pretty blue eyes. I can't stop thinking about you. Your always on my mind. If you don't like me the way I like you. I'll understand and we can just be friends.
I gave it to her yesterday and I saw her today and she didn't say anything about it. I didn't asked her about it. I was kinda down today and really didn't feel like talking. Anyways I didn't tease her back or flirt with her back because she has a boyfriend. I played it cool and kinda ignore her I just wasn't in the mood to talk. And she knew that. Anyways she thought I lost interest in her so she said "You don't like me anymore" and walk away fast and look back at me and smile at me. She knows I still like her, but she has a boyfriend. We are co-workers and her boyfriend makes her come into work crying sometimes. I don't know why she stays with him, but she does. Anyways she didn't say anything about the letter still. She show all her co-worker friends the letter and told them I like her. She never told them that she likes me. Sometimes she flirts with me. I didn't flirt back I played it cool. Today I gave her a christmas present. It was a glass angel. Well she like it, but she didn't want it because her boyfriend would be so mad at her for accepting it. She didn't give it back to me, she left it in the front office and told the manager about the situation. She told him that I like her and treat her different than other girl employees. And she also said to him that she just wants to be friends with me. So did I screw up? I thought she like me. I don't know, i'm sad right now. Any advice?
2006-12-25 04:15:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Poor Guy. She obviously isnt getting treated well at home, so the attention you give her, goes a long way for her....but no where for you. You should just let her be, and keep to your own business. She knows how you feel and if she was going to make a change in her life, she wouldv'e. I say try to move on. & WHo knows maybe someoday when she is done with the jerk, she ill come looking for you. Maybe you will be available, and maybe not. Breaking up is not easy to do. She needs to do that in her own time. I say move on!!! But stay pleasant at work.
Or.....tell her you met someone and are dating them. If she really likes you she may become jealous, and maybe she will approach you, when she is single. Until then....best of luck! And be very careful of office affairs. They can get you fired. I also would keep your feelings to yourself from here on out!
2006-12-25 04:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she is very flattered by your affection for her, and she is just not ready to leave her boyfriend yet. I was in a controlling relationship and it is very hard to work up the nerve to leave because he has you so convinced that you shouldn't or can't. Be nice to her, be patient, and just be her friend. Keep the flirting down to a minimum, but you can still do it a little. It will help her self-esteem to know she is a wonderful attractive person. I'm sure her mind is buzzing right now with the possibility of being with someone who treats her well, yet still afraid of leaving her current boyfriend.
When you get into a relationship like she is in, you become afraid of the possibility of happiness. You aren't sure if you can trust it.
That's where I'm at now. I'm with a wonderful guy who treats me better than I've ever been treated before, and I'm afraid. Not of him, but that it can't be real somehow because all I've ever known is being treated poorly. I don't want it to go away, but at the same time I don't know what to do with it because I've never had it before.
Even after she leaves her boyfriend, if that does happen, you should take things very slow with her because she is going to need some time to get over everything he has put her through. You don't want to be the "rebound" guy.
2006-12-25 04:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family emergency is definately not the right time to tell her, but if its really that necessary and you really need to get the words out of your chest I suggest telling her in a reassuring way... for example... be truthful... and tell her... " It might not be a good time to tell you this but I like you a lot and you don't have to say anything to me right now but I just want you to know that I'll do whatever I can to help you out and that I'll always be there." - if you say this I doubt she will get angry cause she sounds like a decent person and whether or not she likes you romantically- telling her this will keep you in her mind and it will show her how sweet and caring you are... If she doesn't tell you right away whether she likes you or not... don't worry... it gives you the opportunity to ask her out some other time for fun and you can bring up the question again... most of the time especially for me I tend to think about a person a lot when they show me how much they care... actions speak louder... At least this way she knows how you feel.
2016-05-23 05:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh. Back off. Back WAY off. If she told your manager that you treat her different than other female employees, then it sounds like you might be getting a sexual harassment talk. Sorry this happened. That sucks. Just keep your distance from this girl. She sounds like a tease, anyway, and she's going to get you in trouble.
2006-12-25 04:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! did she ever put you in a tough situation!! sorry that happened to you. she is playing games with you. she liked the attention and she liked being able to get the best of you. i really hate it when people feel the need to play with anothers feelings like that. just go to your boss and tell them that she was leading you to believe that she liked you so obviously you were just acting on it. you were not trying to start trouble or stalk her just simply doing what you thought she wanted you to do. GOOD LUCK i hope things work out for you!! and stay away from the vamp!!
2006-12-25 04:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manlaw prescribes that you exercise extreme caution when contemplating workplace romances. If the relationship doesn't work out, then the female can use personal information against you to advance herself in the workplace.
Manlaw also dictates that you not deal with women in the workplace whose boyfriend you can't beat up in a physical altercation -- this is your back-up plan in case you get caught.
Manlaw also proclaims that you only mess with women in the workplace who can PROMOTE you in the company or ARE REALLY gonna back up their flirts, teases, and sexual advances with . . . SEX!
2006-12-25 04:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋