Everytime I go to vist my inlaws, I always feel like I am invisible to everyone especially my sister in law. She seems to never want to talk to me or spend any quality time with me and whenever she has her other sisters in laws from her husbands side over the house and we are there at the same time visiting my husbands family she completely ignores me and acts like I am not even there. Its like she could care less about me. I have done a couple of things in the past to not like me anymore and whenever I try and make up for the things i have done in the past to her she still ignores me and pretends that I'm not there. No matter how much I try and be friendly with her she tries to ignore me and pretend she didn't hear what I said to her and goes about her business. So how do I deal with her actions and get her to like me more? She says she does like me and all but she doesn't show it that often like I wish she would and see that I am really not a bad person at all.
2006-12-25 04:14:16 · 14 answers · asked by Snowwhite30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was going to say wear something in the color of fire-engine red, but now I have a better idea.
When you go over to her house for a family gathering, speak to her and say hello, then ignore her. Speak to everyone else, be cheerful, buoyant, bubbly, just be yourself. Open up a conversation with one of the other sisters-in-law, and if she tries to break into it, just look through her and continue with the original person you were speaking with.
All of this will take a lot of practice for you to acquire such a high sense of self-esteem, but you can do it. She is not the boss of you, she does not control you, and if she doesn't like you, so be it. You cannot change her feelings for you, she has to do that for herself. Good luck.
Still wear that fire engine red outfit though, no one can ignore you wearing that!
2006-12-25 04:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law got on my bad side a few times too. I'm a scorpio and not real forgiving, I can harbor a grudge for years. I guess the only thing that really worked was time. My other sister in law wove her way right into my heart right away, just by being humorous, being interested in what I had to say, etc. Maybe if you try talking about things that interest her, compliment her or ask her opinion. It is really hard for someone to resist giving an opinion or accepting a compliment.
2006-12-25 04:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Hillaryforpresident 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a hard time opening up and being honest with each other, especially when family is involved. Have you found a private time, not in the mix of a gathering, say over coffee at Starbucks (a neutral place and not a busy time) to tell her how you feel, that you are sorry for your mistakes, and what can you do to make ammends? That you would love to be forgiven and to have another chance? That you realize you hurt her and will do your best to never do that again? Explain how you feel, and be willing to listen to her with an open mind.
2006-12-25 04:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the 2nd Coming won't ever be "invisible". After the time of the Antichrist's reign Jesus Christ Returns. This experience is named the 2nd Coming. The Virgin Mary will accompany him. it somewhat is the time of the seventh Trumpet that's constructed from the seven bowls of God's wrath. The depraved are punished via God with super severity. quickly afterwards, the time of super holiness and peace over each and all the earth starts off which will final for 1000 years. this era of a million,000 years is named the Millennium. on the beginning up of the Millennium, Christ returned Ascends to Heaven (2nd Ascension) and returned sends the Holy Spirit upon the Church (2nd Pentecost). Mary returned is assumed into heaven. (2nd Assumption)
2016-10-28 08:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you didn't marry a man whose first wife was a Saint! She was the best Mom, best cook, best Christian, best everything! And I agree!.... but it's hard to maintain my own sainthood while listening to constant stories about how wonderful she was. Left unsaid is that I don't measure up. (Glad I'm so old that it hardly hurts.)
Note to All sister in laws and family members take notice of how you are treating the newcomer! Give her a little appreciation. Her husband loved her enough to ask her to marry him.
2006-12-25 04:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know what she likes, start talking to her about her interests. If it doesn't work, ask to talk to her privately and tell her how you feel.
Don't fret it. You're only there for a short time. Don't let the person control your feeling.
You cannot make everyone likes you, and I'm sure you don't like every person you've met. Some people don't even like God; what chance do you think we human have?
2006-12-25 04:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you did something in the past...
Some people never forget or forgive... and there is nothing much you can do about it. My mother is like that. You say or do something bad to her... and she won't talk to you for the rest of her life.
Just go about your business and forget about her. If you ignore her in turn... maybe one day she'll come to you.
Right now... by crawling to her... you are giving her the satisfaction of ignoring you. Don't crawl...
2006-12-25 04:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is--just try to ignore her the way she is towards you and be as nice as possible and try to fit into conversations. When everyone sees you are trying--they will see her treating you badly and at some point they will address this issue with her.
2006-12-25 04:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one. i'm not very fond of my sister in law but i am never rude to her. just be nice while you're at the family gatherings, that's really all you can do, whatever wrong you commited they need to get over it and just go on.
2006-12-25 06:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by inluvwithb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in laws seem like complete idiots. next time you are there, set something on fire. you will not be ignored ever again.
2006-12-25 04:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋