i want to not be in love with the man but i don't just want to replace love with hate any ideas? thanks......
2006-12-25 03:47:02 · 27 answers · asked by Jelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take the focus of your life away from what he meant to you and your relationship with him and look towards other areas of your life that maybe you've been neglecting or not giving as much attention to as you would like. This doesnt mean forgetting everything, cos there will hopefully come a time in the future when you are over it and can look back and enjoy the good memories and process what happened; but it does mean shelving it for a while, while you look around and shift your focus.
It helps to spend time with family and friends, read if you like reading, listen to music you enjoy, and get back into hobbies you've not had time for.
Good luck, I know you will be ok as you sound sensible and balanced. x
2006-12-25 04:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never a good time for dumping someone, but surely there should be no rush to do it on Christmas day either.
Obviously your guy wasn't very considerate and quite selfish it would seem.
Well, take it as a favour, someone showing his true colour before it's too late, and giving a chance for a new start, new resolutions and all.
Sorry about that. You're better off without him for sure!
x.
2006-12-25 03:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was dumped on Monday and took him to the bus stop on Tuesday. I could never hate him even though I should.
You do not need to stop loving him because some part of the man that you loved will always remain and your happy memories will be your's forever. The hurt stays as well though, sorry
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2006-12-25 05:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was dumped once on X-mas Eve, on the way to a party no less!
So, I am sorry that happened. BUT, everything happens for a reason, and in time, maybe you will realize what a great gift he gave you by leaving! That's a cold thing to do, so you really don't want someone that selfish in your life anyway. My advice....Love yourself first! Think about yourself, instead of thinking about him. Focus on you, and the rest will follow. Thank him, he did you a favor! Do it nicely, that makes him feel worse. Don't fight, forgive!
It's Christmas! Best of luck, & there's someone better waiting for you!
2006-12-25 03:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the pua community (pick up artist) when soemone has something called one-itis (obesession with one particular girl) the test to it is to go out and have sex with 10 other people, then see how special they are to you =)
I suggest just taking a moment and seeing what your 'love' truly is, ask yourself why this one is so special - you may find that hes just like 1000's of other guys out there. Then look at past "in-love" expieriences you've had, im sure you got over those with no problem at all =)
. . . merry christmas =P
2006-12-25 03:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Plethora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this largely depends on your own self esteem. If its strong, you should be taking satisfaction from the notion that you being apart from him is his loss and not yours, because you deserve better. You deserve to be treated better, by someone who can appreciate the benefits of being your boyfriend?
If your confidence and self esteem is low, then there is no quick fix other than finding yourself another man. Which shouldn't be too hard at Christmas. The broken hearted tally at this time of year rises significantly I find. Most desperate to find someone to dote on at christmas so that they can be like their friends and not the Christmas gooseberry they turn into.
2006-12-25 05:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by statusquo44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that that's just nasty
my advice is get drunk and it also means you can kiss some good looking lads on new years eve with out worrying
and anyone who is nasty enough to dump you Christmas days ain't worth being with and you deserve much much better and remember although i don't know you I'm sure that you can do better but he will have a hard time finding a better lass
2006-12-25 04:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by yoshi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap, I have got just one thing to say to you, go back to your question and read it as if a stranger had written it, what's the first thing that pops into your head? Is is something like 'what a total loser, hope she realises how much better off she is with out HIM'.
That's the first thing I thought, how can you love a man who humiliates you like this? There are 365 days in the year, and he chose this one? You are in a much better position to be happy now, than you were when you were still with this cretin, you just can't see it yet...................
2006-12-25 04:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be surrounded by people you have fun with and care about and as you said, it's Christmas, get the alcohol flowing, but don't forget to keep the mind active and have fun. Think of anything you can keep your mind on constantly that you enjoy and that does'nt envolve this person in any way.
2006-12-25 03:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Carl H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over it. When you get to my age (46) and look back at all the twats you've wasted time and tears over it makes you really wish you could go back and do it all again but oh so differently! Get angry, get proud, know you're worth a lot more than the idiot who's just dumped you.
2006-12-25 04:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Watson (UK) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋