My ex and i broke up 9 months ago after dating for almost 5 years. We had broken up before, but it didnt last this long. He hasn't called me, e-mailed me or anything this whole time! No contact at all, he doesnt even say anything about me to our mutual friends. He broke up with me, so i'm waiting for him to contact me. I don't want to get back with him, theres too much history, but i still want him to miss me and regret dumping me. My friends still talk to him, so i know he doesnt have a new girlfriend. But, I miss him so much and think about him all the time. Why doesnt he miss me??
2006-12-25 03:42:06 · 16 answers · asked by texxxasgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we broke up out of nowhere; he just said that its not working, and thats it!!!
i know its stupid, but if i know that he regrets leaving me, then i will feel better about it.
2006-12-25 03:57:52 · update #1
call him
2006-12-25 03:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by godschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only sympathise with you, I am myself in a similar situation and find that it is hard to move on and I also find that I still wait for his email or call. But, to be real I'm sure that you and anyone in this situation (including myself!) deserves alot better.....do you really want to be in contact with someone who doesn't care about you the same as you might care about them? Give yourself the chance to open the door to other possibilities, don't wait for his call, really it is not worth the time and effort, he is not worth this hurt you are only prolonging. It isn't easy whether you are male or female. And if he does happen to call, well, so be it, but in the mean time try and be kind to yourself, surround yourself with safe and supporting people, maybe go and talk to someone if you need to, no harm can come of it and if anything a different perspective can be a relief (That's what this is for right?!)......at the end of the day be your own best friend......I am sure he would miss you to a certain degree, especially to have spent so much time together.......memories can be a beautiful thing, but don't let this cloud your life in the here and now.... for some really good advice, i have found this great lady on the web site (do a google on her....paige parker) she for me has been ever so en lighting.....take care of yourself and all the best xxxx
2006-12-26 23:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by aly mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hei there,
It seems like you are contradicting yourself here. On one hand, you dont want to get back to him because of 'too much history', but on the other hand, you miss him so much and you cant get him out of your mind.
I think what you need to do is to decide.. If you really dont want to get back with him anymore, then try to let go of him. Try to move on with your life. I know that 5 years is not a short time, and there must be lots of beautiful memory, but you have to just keep the memory in the past. There are still guys out there for you.
However, if you think that you cant let him off your mind, and that you still miss him and love him, then you should try to let go of all the bitterness and resentments and forget all the fights you had with him. You should try to contact him and be really honest with him. Tell him what you want and what you feel, and see if you two can really work things out.
Your question of him not missing you... that cant be answered until you talk to him.
Good luck. :)
2006-12-25 03:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that one,you must have done something really bad to piss him off.
Maybe you need to call him and apologize for whatever it was that you did.
I know that takes a lot for a woman to admit she is wrong,honestly ,I have never heard of ,or witnessed a woman admit she was wrong. I think it has something to do with the "lifetime" channel mentality of women today where they preach that all men are abusers and a holes.
2006-12-25 03:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL you shouldn't be missing your b/f. The past good memories ar whats making you miss him. Remember him for the evil things he's done to you and you'll be glad he's gone. Move on. It's history, better things await for the future.
2006-12-25 03:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by aninjashinobi25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you NEED that he miss you??
Why you need he fells bad ,miserable and sad because is no long with you?
Why you NEED handle his emotions?
Be good with you and the rest of the universe,you say you dont want be back with him(really???).......if is so.........leave him free to be happy and move on to another story.........he probably miss you.......you dont know what he has inside himself.......you were important to him, so Im sure he miss you ...but in HIS way.
2006-12-25 03:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by mariposa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's human nature to want something you can't have and for the other to suffer like you are suffering. hang in there and keep yourself occupied. once you get over this phase of the breakup things will look a lot clearer after that and you will see the break up was a blessing.
2006-12-25 03:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard, especcially after such a long relationship, but you can't sit around waiting for him to come back.
waiting around will only make it hurt worse and last longer. you need to get out their and live life again!
and im sure he's only trying to loose all contact because he misses you.
2006-12-25 03:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by puffenstuffsrevenge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well by the time people break up,,the person doing the breaking up has had time to think about it,,,get used to the idea of it. move on move on... im sure he misses having you around but he did move on,,, leave him alone.
2006-12-25 03:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like u said too much history - he's ready to move on - - and i'm sure he does miss you - he just knows it's time to move on
2006-12-25 03:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just over you and doesn't want you anymore...
that's sad..
but the best thing you can do is to just forget about him...
get over it...
"there are so many fishes in the sea..."
fix yourself up
stay pretty and in good shape all the time
this might get him and OTHER BETTER GUYS to notice you
2006-12-25 03:46:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋