What should i do now?

Question

I am very troubled by this problem. Although i've already known the answer all of u might give, i want to hear anyway.
Me and my bf recently broke up but we still like each other. We have been together for around 2 years now and our relationship was perfect. Everyone thinks highly of our relationship and we are able to communicate and talk about almost everything in the world. You can say that we were the best of friends. We are each's other support, with school work, problems, anything. But we felt that our relationship was too stablized already, maybe stagnant? That's why we decided to give each other a break. Although this was a mutual decision, i miss him badly. I miss everything about him and it really kills me to have to face the fact that we are no longer together.
Till now, we are still able to behave normally as best friends, but it's really painful for me. He is still there for me and even tries to console me about the break. He's really trying not to break my heart and

and always tells me that i should move on and stuff like that. He asked me out once for a movie and it just felt natural to lean over to him and hand him. He didn't resist, but i don't think he is taking advantage of me. I talked to him about us getting back together but he says that we should really look further first as we are still very young. We are 19. I think he still feels for me. But he will keep telling me things like, we cannot do this anymore because we've already broken up, don't use love, dont talk about getting back together or i'll be nasty. What do u guys think? It hurts to know that i can only be his friend. It sucks to hear that i have to move on although i know that i have to. But i feel that it is a waste to let go. I cannot bear to let him go. what will u guys advise?

Do u guys think that we might have a chance to be together in future?

Answer 1

Can you not mutually decide to get back together. If you both feel that way about each other why stay apart. This is probably the worst time of the year other than valentines day to be alone. I hope that you can find a decision that will make you both happy. Plus once a relationship is stable that is not always a bad thing.

Answer 2

OK so you broke up, & now you are in a state of mourning over the end of a long term relationship.

I think that maybe you are finding it hard to accept the end because your relationship seemed to die a slow death instead of going down in a ball of flames like most relationships do.

Whatever the reason, try to accept it as legitimate & move on.
After all the two of you made this decision together, so that should be enough to make it as good a reason as you need to end it.

You also described it as a "Break". That makes it sound to me as though you really haven't decided to end it permanently. I believe this can actually have the effect of dragging out the mourning period since you will now be wondering when the "break" will end, & you two will pick up with the relationship.
A clean break might have made this easier for you to accept in the long run.

The two of you appear to be bending over backwards to please each other. Since you were apparently never really ready to end this relationship, & he is trying to console you over the breakup.

My analysis is that you only agreed to end it when he brought it up because you have grown accustomed to giving him everything he wants in this relationship. If I am right about that then you may have accidently found yourself exactly where you need to be right now. Out of a relationship that is toxic for you.
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Answer 3

Hmmmmmm, things are perfect? Stagnant? what would have made things better , an occasionally fight, maybe his fooling around on you? You had things is the right place, now you are apart and lonely. I did notice that you said you were lonely without him. Hmmmm is he lonely????? probably not.
Move on and find someone better than what you had.

Answer 4

you both are really happy together !
does everythign need to mean somehitng !! so wat if its stagnant .......atleats its not painful 1! the day u think u cant go on anymor ethen brk up !! dont do it cos u think its stagnant !! there is no such rule in saying a relationship shud not b stagnant !
i mean its pointless.......u liek him he likes u and ur causing pain to ur ownself !
tc
all the best

Answer 5

i think that what you describe is what everyone realy needs in his life you found a person that you were first a couple and then best friends it's something rare and i consider you realy lucky you shouldn't throw something like that away just because you found it early believe me you will understand later in your life

Answer 6

you're confusing the friendship with the idea of what the relationship was, or should have been. remain as friends and move on.

Answer 7

well i don't mean about that .simply i'm asking, but it's pu 2 u. and i wish both of u 2 have a happy new year nad let ur relation wih ur bf be deep rooted as he days goes by. thanks.