when my father and brother started a new business me and my husband were very happy for them, we were canvassing for them like mad.giving a lot of emotional support to them. i am the only daughter.but two years since then and we hav been actively telling people from our circle to go to their store.yesterday there was a big event at their store and half the town got invites except us.they only called up at the last minute when the event had started making it impossible for us to drive across town to be there . i am very upset.and feel ignored and seething from inside. how should i react though they gave vague explanations like forgetting etc etc.
2006-12-25 03:20:25 · 9 answers · asked by krazi sasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This obvious faux pas on the part of your father and your brother seems like a likely case of presumptuousness, when one must have thought that the other must have and surely invited you, and so both have inadvertently forgoton to invited you.
I am sure since you both are so close to them and work so much for them they wouldn't have dared to ignore you, rather they both must have taken your presence at the event as an obvious. For sure, no one ignores a loving and supporting sister like yourself.
To me personally, all this seems like a bit of misunderstanding.
Since it has hurt you so much why not tell them so and get it cleared with them, so that this little incident doesn't sour your beautiful relationship especially when you both have worked so hard to see them successful, haven't you?
And this incident notwithstanding you obviously love them dearly, so use this season well and hope thing sort themselves out well in time for the New Years.
Have a great holiday.
2006-12-25 03:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it a big event like a sale where people would buy items at a great price? Or an event where food and gifts were given freely.
If it was the first of the two I mentioned then of course they thought of the paying customers, and would not expect that you and your husband have to participate in something where money was involved. And if it was the second of the two, well then again think of it this way. It was a thank you and incentive to keep their current customers coming back.
It may take time but try to get to a place in your life where your spirit feels full-filled. That usually happens when you keep supporting others like you have with your brother and father. You are on the right track. Get rid of the resentment, don't let that little other voice on your shoulder make things seem so grim. Listen to the other voice that continues to tell you "You are a great support to others, I'm proud of you"
Maybe you can call your dad and brother and go to a dinner, something more intimate for family members, as a celebration.
2006-12-25 11:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by prayingangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah maybe they forgot, I mean would it not have been worse if they didn't call at all. I think they def forgot. I mean maybe if you set one of them down in a room and you too are alone you can confront them and tell them how this made you feel and maybe you can find out if they did it on purpose or not and maybe find out what their reason is so you can either work on why they didn't or just move on because you will know for sure what went down. I think your just confused and you need to know somthing solid, Sometimes it is hard to get the truth out of people so maybe if they say they forgot maybe they will drop more clues, I dont know your compleate situation, I would just let it go for now and see if they keep being rude,
2006-12-25 11:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by SHADOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be close to your father or you wouldn't have worked hard to see his success. So don't let something break this relationship. It could be some kind of misunderstanding. With all the excitement of the event some or even close family members could have been forgotten. I'm sure your hard work was not in vain and that if you speak to your father and open your heart to him you would come to some kind of understanding. Family relationship is precious and are worth all the effort to keep them strong.
2006-12-25 11:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by papa G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not depressed. that's for sure.
but it's understandable for you to feel really neglected because they forgot to tell you.
on the other hand, try to look at it rationally. im sure they just assumed that you knew already, being that youre a close family member. i doubt they did it on purpose or had any intention of hurting you.
2006-12-25 11:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by puffenstuffsrevenge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vocally support them, I understand that you feel left out, but don't take it too personally. I understand being dissapointed but who knows, they might have forgotten to invite you due to maybe how busy they are.
2006-12-25 11:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell them how you feel and if they dont except your felling dont be so supportive when they ask why tell them again
2006-12-25 11:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
2006-12-25 11:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too !
2006-12-25 11:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Back Off Jack ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋