Any chance of me "the rebound woman" being future potential?

Question

He was with "her" for seven years, she cheated on him and he found out that their child isn't his. She is an awful person too. He moved out and broke up with her. After a year and a half of me dating him I found out through some investigating that he's still been seeing her. Any chance of "us" one day? I am a great, sweet, compassionate person. Him and I did many great things together like movies, dinner, theme parks, bowlings, carnivals, I even met his family.

Answer 1

i did the same thing, my ex cheated on me after 10 years togethor, i met someone new, and have been with her for about 9 months, and have been seeing my ex too, its hard for me to explain, ive never been that kind of person but it changes you, once youve had your heart ripped out it makes you a little numb, i do in fact love my new girlfriend , but what makes me go back is the comfort level of being with my ex, and at the same time I hate,hate,hate her, for ruining my life, there is absolutely not one second of trust, and i realize in my heart that i need to let her go, that my new girl is what is the best for me, and she really does love me as you love him, its really really hard, but in time it will come to a head, i just have to decide for myself, as he will have to do, and as I, im sure that he realizes that you are his best interest and he will eventually cut those ties, because logic will force him to as it is forcing me, good luck and stick it out, you will win him over, just be there for him, and listen when he talks about her, because he too relives this trauma everyday, and knows that even if he went back his life would suck, because he cant ever trust her again, so good luck and i hope that i made a little sense for you, my heart hurts, and i want to heal, but as long as i keep tormenting myself i will always bleed, im breaking the habit as we speak, he needs to follow suit, and stop seeing her so you 2 can build a new fam!!

Answer 2

I would say I'm afraid not. Since you are a great, sweet, compassionate person, you deserve nothing less than another great, sweet, compassionate person, and I don't think he fits that description. The fact that you had to investigate to find out he was still seeing her is a major red flag. He was going behind your back. Don't treat yourself like a piece of meat on the butcher's shelf, hoping he'll eventually buy you instead of her. Find someone better to do all those things with, and in the meantime, there is nothing wrong with doing fun things by yourself.

Answer 3

I have always been an advocate for letting the punishment fit the crime. Maybe instead of the death penalty, this scumbag should have his spinal cord severed and forced to live as a quadriplegic. Of course that still leaves the matter of being shot in the face four times by a .40 caliber at close range and enduring all the surgeries that Officer Gonzalez has had to face. Maybe the death penalty is the best option, but none of that quick relatively painless (by comparison to Officer Gonzalez pain and suffering) lethal injection, or electric chair. The ancient Chinese had a punishment that every day the prisoner had a body part removed, starting with the feet and working upward. The body part was then boiled and fed to the prisoner, so that he slowly ate himself to death. No cost for food to the taxpayers. Cruel and unusual punishment? Not in my opinion.

Answer 4

Well, until he breaks all ties with her, I'm afraid there isn't much hope. It's nice you did all those things together, met the family and all that, but the fact of the matter is he's cheating on you. That doesn't make him any better than the woman he was with. In fact, I think they deserve each other. I would take a step back from that relationship until he figures out what he wants. And even then, I would be very cautious.

Answer 5

about the only indication you have of it is that you met his family. if they were together for seven years it may take at least half that long for him to really get over her. they have a child, so that potential that he's still, "in" her, for lack of a better term, is a real possibility. do you really want to be with him like that knowing that you can count on him being with her in that way. if you're such a great person, why can't you be with someone who you could have had, definitively, in the amount of time you've spent with him trying to figure out if it's real. you deserve better, but if you think that this guy is the one the only real way is to be there for him and to see what happens. but if he decides that he wants to be with her, again, and leaves you it shouldn't come as any surprise.

Answer 6

I think you are fooling yourself for thinking you have a chance and are being a sucker for wanting one! He has been sneaking around for a year and a half? That alone should make you want to dump him! He is obviously still stuck on her or he wouldn't be seeing her. You need to break up with him and tell him that you cannot see him at all until he is really free. Even then, if it were me, I would not want to see him. It hurts to lose someone you care about, even when they are not good for you. He is dishonest and his general character will most likely never change.
Give yourself the best gift this Christmas--the chance to find a good man who treats you well and puts you first.

Answer 7

For the life of me I will never understand men..lol He has you, a person who truly cares for him and still he goes back to the woman who treated him badly? It just doesn't make sense. Keep your head on straight sweety and let HIM make the moves. It sounds like your a prize that deserves to be pursued and won. Please keep that in mind and SMILE and be happy.
Best of luck to you! Merry Christmas!!

Answer 8

move on. most likely not. you'll be waiting forever if you decide to wait. you want someone that will want exclusively you and not someone who is thinking about someone else while he is with you. he's not over her if he is still seeing her. sorry. you deserve much better than that with the personality traits that you have described.

Answer 9

Manlaw expressly states that a man's #2 woman, will always remain, just that -- his #2 woman.

Merry Christmas.

Answer 10

if you and him have been dating ever since... for a year and a half.. you found out he was still seeing her.. that means he's cheating on you!!!!! hello?? does that ring a bell? you still want a chance of what you call "US"??