I found out that I was the rebound woman, after a year and a half, and I am in love with him?

Question

I am love sick, and can't get over him. What should I do?

Answer 1

it was good enough for you for the last year and a half so it shouldn't matter that much now. perhaps he truly is over her because if all that you were was the rebound woman, he would have went back with his ex by this point.

Answer 2

Handle your lovesick business on your own, away from him. Clearly, being the rebound woman was a deal breaker for you. Your real self knows this situation is not good enough for you. You are asking for advice from us, people in the world who are not him. You have already separated yourself from him and have started taking steps towards your new life.
You want something real and equal...I can hear it in your question.
The good news is that you are able to love and love deeply enough to have good memories. This is very good.
The thing about sickness is...usually it passes like a cold or the flu. It may pass when it feels like it though and not when you want it to pass...like today. Most lovesickness is when people ONLY remember good things or qualities that the person had that the lovesick person thinks they will never find in anothere person. Or they are lovesick because the person who used them was a little bit more handsome or popular that the lovesick person thinks they can normally attract. Both these things are untrue.
Qualities you liked in that person that you think were good or attractive, can be found in others. Go to a mall or street cafe and sit and notice people's qualities as they walk by. Some are good fathers, or considerate, or angry or funny or sweet. You can see it as they walk by. So you will see that just one person does not own qualities alone. Qualities are mixed and matched in each person on earth.
Next, if the person who used you is a little bit more handsome or funny than you usually would attract then you must look at how you become blind to some things in order to have a "relationship" with someone you crave or want to be seen with in public. You can have a wonderful equal relationship with a person you are also attracted to but look out for how you might become blind or sell yourself out just to be with someone you think you really do not have a chance with.
You were sincere in your side of loving them. that is good. Remember your side. But also keep remembering that there was no "there" on the other side.
The good news is that you loved and got out. it does not matter if he left or you backed out.
You are out, you have a heart and enough smarts to ask for advice because you want a new life. Keep asking questions as new things come up. Once you have answered all the questions for yourself...the "sick" part of lovesickness will end.
If you were using that person to increase your self esteem inpublic because maybe he was handsome or something, then become the kind of person that gets that kind of reaction in public yourself. Don't try to become popular or more self confident just by being attached to another person. Become great yourself.

Answer 3

It's time to move on. You will get over him. You need to concentrate on his stupid qualities -- and it sounds like he has many -- and forget whatever good you thought he had in him, because it isn't there. Leave him. Get together with some of the very depressed men on here this morning. They will love you. Dump the loser!!

Answer 4

dump the chump and find your own Rebound Love

Answer 5

You are 'in love' with his potential, not the 'real' him and you'll get over him and more.
You'll learn to relax and roll with the punches; that's just the way it is!

Answer 6

you should find out who he is going out with and blackmail him it always works

Answer 7

move on! chin up!