Recently, for the past 2 mos, she has learnt to shout a lot. whenever she feels unhappy, she'll shout very very loud. I've told her in both nice and mean ways. but she still shouts.
She says what she wants but she cries as well. when she's mad, she cries. when she can't get what she wants she cries and shouts.
she does that everyday and each time whenever she feels unhappy, whether it is at home or in public places.
I'm really upset why my daughter behaves that way. what should i do?
I need help and advice.
2006-12-25 02:54:58 · 14 answers · asked by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
shes just going through her terrible twos. Maybe start fake crying to see if it hurts her feelings that she is hurting mommy by screaming
2006-12-25 12:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three very well behaved girls. They range in ages 9-4. I nipped the fits in the bud when they started. They were told to stop, warning one. If the lovely fit continued they were lightly tapped in the mouth to get their attention and told "NO" again. If the fit still continued they were taken to the nearest bathroom and spanked. It might sound mean, but kids need boundaries and they need us to teach them how they are supposed to act. In life we don't always get what we want, period, and by throwing a temper tantrum and yelling/screaming is not going to get you anywhere in life. Sometimes you just can't have what you want and not getting everything you want can make you appreciate the times when you are able to, it builds an appreciation. At two years old she is able to start to understand this, but you need to be consistent and not give into her whims. I personally wonder what the hell is wrong with parents when I see them out and about catering to their whiney unappreciative children. Life just isn't fair at times and that's just how it is. While it is okay to express your emotions you have to learn the proper way. I've seen adults throw temper tantrums and it isn't pretty, infact it's disturbing to see somebody act that selfish.
2006-12-25 03:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the patience it takes to not respond to her in a negative manner. Your 2 yr. old is very normal, she has something on her mind but isn't sure how to tell you. They call this the terrible twos because they are getting a sense of individuality and are just testing you to find her boundaries. When my son gets angry and screams at me I respond with a simple "I cannot understand you when you are screaming at me." Then I simply ignore him, the first few times they will protest longer, louder and with more intensity. But if you do not respond to her until they talk to you calmly you will find the temper fits will eventually stop. I must stress the fact Do not respond negatively this is not a battle of wills. Just show her a good example by not getting upset stay calm.
2006-12-25 03:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my 3yr old girl. I got to the point I just try to distract her, like I'll take her to the TV and put on her favorite show. Usually that works for me. I also sometimes go to the book store and look through the child behavior books. Their some good helpful stuff there.
2006-12-25 15:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cubana mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she acts out in the house, give her a warning...if she doesn't stop, spank her, or put her in time out [whatever is more effective for you]. explain that she has to express her feelings in a quieter manner, like a big girl. my daughter would scream and cry if she didn't get what she wanted, but after a couple of months of me telling her "say, 'may i have this please?'" she's finally starting to get it. so when she wants something, she asks for it nicely. she still has her fits, but thats a 2 year old for you. if you're in public and she starts having a tantrum, just take her out of the store, and go home. she'll learn that she can't go out and go to places she likes if she continues to scream. good luck!
2006-12-25 16:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by tommygirl6794092 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that shouting is not going to help her get what she wants and shes just going to get more mad, and get mommy mad so not shouting will help everyone, also reward her when she doesn't shout for a day and then once she stops shouting for a day for a while move it to a week and so on~good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-25 03:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not take notice or try to please her and just make sure she doesnt get anything when she shouts or cries. As time comes by she will get tired of her doings just be ignorant but when she has already calmed down and then you get what she really wants. At times children are more persuasive and they learn our weekness.
2006-12-25 03:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 08:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The naughty chair as seen on Super Nanny has worked wonders with my step daughter. It will take a lot of patience from you the first couple of weeks but she will get thepoint eventually and stop her fits. Designate a place in the kitchen for the naughty chair and everytime she misbehaves make her sit there for 2 minutes if she gets up or throws herself on the floor pick her up and sit her back down without speaking to her as many times as it takes till she sits for her 2 minutes. trust me its harder on us to enforce than it is for them to do it.
2006-12-25 03:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by jahvar's mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think you need to sit her down when shes happy and just talk but if she still does it at home put her in a corner but at public places just stay calm and ignore her most likely she will stop.
2006-12-25 03:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by jackie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son did that I took him out of wherever we were and disciplined him... Even if it was just a smack on the hand.. Kids have to learn that they have come into OUR world... My son is now almost 5 and he's a very good boy!! Good luck to you and have a Merry Christmas
2006-12-25 06:17:25 · answer #11 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋