im the nicest kidest person youll meet, but take advantage and im your enemys worst nightmare!!!
(It gives me problems with my worklife@FRIENDS)
2006-12-25 02:45:27 · 11 answers · asked by akeemcwashington 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Trust me I can relate, i am the same way, i had to learn how to be nice nasty, its being nice and nasty at the same time using big words to make people feel small, but not letting them take you out of your box, thats when they win, thats all they want is to make you step out of your box loose your cool dont give them that, say the things you mean but in a nice way.....its hard to explain my nana taught me and i live nice nasty everyday u have to stand up for yourself, dont let anyone run over you but its a time and a place to get really nasty and its a time to not hold your tounge but watch your words and your actions keep your cool sweety...
2006-12-25 07:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshyne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the online book on Assertiveness Training.
It teaches you the difference between being assertive (not letting people walk al over you) with out being aggressive (exhibiting demonic forces)
It also gives practical behavioral modification techniques and exercises for incorporating assertivenes into your everyday life.
2006-12-25 02:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel because I am nice and people walk all over me. But what I admire about you is that you have not exploded yet. You have the ability to have self-control. Try reading the Bible because it has tons of Scriptures on what to do when you just want to punch somebody in the face. One of the fruits of the Spirit is self-control. If you can't do that, try singing a tune. You will be okay.
-Kiarra S.
2006-12-25 02:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Walking Contradiction 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you project clearly defined limits, you should not be taken advantage. If the signals you send are nebulous and your expectations of others are unrealistic, then perhaps you are setting yourself up for vulnerability. Your anger should be proportionate to the offense perceived though. If you are hot and cold with no middle ground then you are in need of anger management counseling.
2006-12-25 02:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them if they don't give you some respect your are going to explode with demonic forces. They probably will not believe you but they will after the first few times you do. Really scare the sh-it out of them. Then they will respect you when you tell them to.
2006-12-25 03:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting the last word is not always a good thing. People love it when they can get under your skin!!!! I know it will be hard but pray for them. My sister-inlaw does cruel things and never says sorry. I now have distance my self from her. I am not rude or nasty, but I do not socialize with her like I used to. She has the nerve to say to my husband that I need to get over it and that she is not going to change. That hurt me, but I do love her but I am dealing with her in a different way.
I think my sister-inlaw needs a lot of attention!!!
It is hurting our family!!!!! I will continue to pray for her. I know I have to work on me also!!!!!!
2006-12-25 02:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way and this is what i told him. LEARN TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS!! you will never be able to get through life being angry and spiteful. you need to go to a counselor and get anger managment. despite how nice you are when your not angry your anger is getting the best of you and you need to deal!! i told him that if he didn't we wouldn't last long because i was so tired of hearing how mad he was at people all the time and how much work sucked because of the people. if you dont learn to deal with this it will effect your relationships and your job. your going to have to deal with people no matter how they treat you so learn how to do it in agood way!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-25 03:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That right there should be enough to show people what happens when they disrespect you and take advantage.
2006-12-25 03:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
fruits of the spirit - one of them is self control, pray that JC will help you everyday.
say sorry to those you have hurt and explain that you are working on it.
2006-12-25 02:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Learn to meditate. It will teach you self-control.
2006-12-25 03:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋