You know what... suddenly I feel that I do not deserve this girl at all. She is way too perfect for me: Beautiful, kind, caring, friendly, et cetera. Even though I deeply care for her, suddenly I feel so lonely, so alone here. I feel that I do not deserve her.
I have told her my feeling but she said just want to be friends. Since then I am determined to wait for her, but suddenly, I feel that I do not deserve her...
2006-12-25 01:36:37 · 17 answers · asked by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No girl will love a guy who isn't confident in himself. If you don't believe you are worthy for her affection then how can you expect her to.
If you truly love her, that is reason enough. Looks, and other superficial factors do not matter.
If she has said she wants to just be friends, it doesnt mean you don't deserve her, it could just mean she doesn't want a relationship right now, or likes someone else. there are millions of reasons. Don't think that it's necessarily because you don't 'deserve' her.
2006-12-25 01:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becoming true friends is a must before anything else will ever possibly work. The bond that will form, from learning about each other, will be one that will be almost impossible to break. If you really care, be her friend, and don't ruin everything by trying to force her to love you. People don't seem to realize that we are all equal...no one is any better than any one else. Your thoughts of not being worthy will only be seen as weakness and could be a major factor in her decision of even wanting to remain friends. Be thankful you know such a wonderful person and enjoy what she possess inside. You'll get the best results that way.
2006-12-25 02:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by boogians 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mr. asker, I have been in that position before. We are friends now. And it's great because we can hang out and share secrets with each. But it's all up to you. She may seem so unattainable but you never know. We're all human. You can give her up or go over the top with one last romantic gesture. I'm sure that you are a great guy. In fact just asking people here shows that you want her to be with a good person. All I can say is good luck with whatever decision you make. I hope it's all for the best.
2006-12-25 01:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by joe19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pass her up, she just might find someone else who thinks he's better than her. Trust me, she's better off with you. Think about it from her perspective and what makes her happy. If she says she wants you, take her at her word.
Nobody is completely perfect. Your lady has faults just like the rest of us, although I am sure the good outweighs the bad. Think of it this way. Kind and friendly people tend to spread those virtues to other people. Maybe you don't feel you measure up now, but perhaps when you are with her for awhile, you will notice some pleasant changes in yourself.
2006-12-25 01:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by curiousme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, you sound like a such a sincere and nice guy. Believe me, you do deserve someone with as beautiful personality as you are. Even though I don't know you well, I think I'm reasonably good at picking up what kind of a person someone is.
All the best with the girl you love.
2006-12-25 01:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all feel this way from time to time, don't put yourself down so deeply. Since God guided you to her He must feel that you deserve her. Just leave it up to God. Trust in Him. And that is very nice of you to state that this girl is too perfect for you. Wow! You do have deep feelings for her. There is a reason that you were lead to her. Have patience. Don't turn away from her. Again, don't put yourself down. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to do that even though it's flattering for her. Don't deny her you!
2006-12-25 03:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once is a while a guy wins the lottery. Just be grateful and try to be the man she deserves. I end up with Miss Wrong time after time.....Just be very grateful dude. Finding a good woman really is like winning the lottery, a rare thing. Don't blow it, and if you do blow it, don't damage her psychologically and ruin it for the next guy.
2006-12-25 01:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is perfect and very few people are worthy of waiting for. Confidence is sexy in a guy so if you want to win her over, try not to be so depressing and self loathing.
2006-12-25 01:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a great guy lyk u deserves any girl he wants. dont ut ur self down. talk to her again ask her if se wants to be more than friends. u sound so cute that i am almost sure that she loves u back. if she doesnt then its her loss. just tell her how u feel again, and see what happens.
2006-12-25 02:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by cute_lil_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you have enough conflicting emotions going there? You're making yourself crazy, and getting nowhere. She's going to sense that, if she hasn't already. Quit being so 'wishy-washy' and undecided, and go for it, dude!
2006-12-25 01:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋