I dnt love a girl who loves me. My parents also want me 2 marry her. Bt i dnt want 2 marry her. Rather i hate her. If i had some love with her b4 then i could have thought of marrying her. What u feel that if i dnt like her n never wanted 2 marry her, should i marry her even if i dnt want?
I think i should marry a girl whom i like n in my dreams.
Can u suggest me about this plz??
Thank u for ur answers.....
2006-12-25 01:00:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Arranged marriages, by history, have a much better success rate than those that are chosen by the two getting married.
However, talk with your parents and tell them how you feel. Get a conselor or mediator involved, if necessary. Try to explore your parents reasons for wanting to make this selection and why they chose her. Ultimately, all of you should come to an understanding and agreement at the end.
2006-12-25 01:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sidewinder 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...I suggest you save yourself a lot of grief, go find someone you hate and buy her a house.
Odds are you'll not love the person you love now in 20 years. Why don't you give your parents a bit of credit and consider what they're putting down? Long engagements are wonderful. You CHOOSE to love someone. Lust fades.
A girl you like in your dreams? Do you realize how hard that will be for a real live flesh and blood human being to live up to? Why don't you continue to allow this young woman to keep your company? It is a rare thing for someone to love you... Try to love her back. You're being selfish, foolish, immature and short sighted. I'm not saying you have to marry this young woman, but older people have a way of picking out good qualities you may not recognize.
2006-12-25 01:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Mickey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what Wicked Mickey says may be right to certain extend, but you need to start loving her before getting married. Do what your instinct says but please love her now and love her after your marriage to her or to some one else. There is no reason to hate anyone in this world. Lust may be lost but Love prevails. May be you are not feeling attracted towards her and that is what you are calling love, if it is so try and note down few good and bad qualities of her you will get the answer. Do you think parents of ugly and disabled child Love them? Yes they do. Any way you are going to marry a stranger now or later so what's wrong in giving a chance to some one you know a little. You can start loving any one from this moment, just keep your heart alive. Important thing is how compatible you both would be, check that out, how many thing are in common that you like and dislike you will be a happy husband. Please note there is no DREAM GIRL in this world it only happens in hindi movies.
2006-12-25 01:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Man, you have to do what is best 4 you. Whats best for you only. You don't want to get married because everyone else thinks it's the right thing to do. You will be miserable and you will regret it in the end. It is easy to get married, but it is hard to get out of it. If you not careful it will cost you more to get divorced as well. So think about it, talk to your family. I would wait til you find the one that you really want.. Good Luck
2006-12-25 02:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Moreno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not just a female! Be a Man! If people are thinking that you are grown up for marriage, can u not wake up your pride and concisousness? Be a man. No body dies for you. They just say. Nothing will be lost. Never do any thing against your wish. If a man's pleasures are depended on another's decisions, such life is not worth living. You are not a slave or helpless. Help yourself. Kickup your ego. You have a right to live. Live for Yourself. There is no greatest value for sacrifice, than your own live. Live it and if you wish to live it SAY NO with your parents.
2006-12-25 15:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by auditorsudhakar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the chances of you finding the girl of your dreams, is almost nonexsistant, because our dreams change every waking moment. as for this girl, have you even given her a chance, she is a living breathing person, and yes that requires a big change on your part, as for her loving you I think not, she may be infatuated with you, and as well has accepted the fact that you two will marry, I am not sure what the custom in Your country is but arranged marriages have been successful because neither party go in to it with expectations, other than this will take a lot of work and will be what we create together, I find this concept of arranged marriages to be worth while, because it requires two people to bring to the marriage every thing , and nothing is hidden or secret. Bless you
2006-12-25 07:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a question!! You need to live your own life and do what you think is right...if you don't love the girl, then don't marry her. If it is an arranged marriage, then be prepared for a family backlash if you don't marry her though. Do what you feel in your heart...not what other people say you should do.
2006-12-25 03:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAve you ever thought this way.. Since that girl did not say anything. I think she loves you soo much. So after marriage, she would be the perfect patner for you. May be now you don't like her. but later you might like her.
Or best is to talk to all about what you have in your mind. Otherwise, the whole life of yours, hers and both of the parents have to suffer. So if you don't like tell them the truth or talk to the girl.
2006-12-26 12:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mayandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have mentioned that she loves u; u r lucky that u r getting a chance to be a partner of her as she loves u. Everyone desires of something. Think we desire a thing we don't have & which is more than our limitations. Any human being who is going to be married wishes that his/her partner loves him/her.
Even then if u don't want to be married, go to ur parents & tell them about ur wishes.
If ur parents don't agree & pressurise u then make them understand calmly that "In life, marriage takes place only once....it's a lifetime matter "
Even then they disagree, then only there are wrong ways:
(a) U can tell the girl about ur problems
(b) can inform her family directly or indirectly
2006-12-25 01:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by munish_bestfriends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only u can help urself.
Just don't marry that girl.
If at all you do so, you will be spoiling many lives. Don't do that.
Sit with your parents & that girl, talk to them openly, make them understand that this is not gonna work & it will spoil everything.
I am sure they will understand.
If not then, you know better how to convience your parents.
May god bless you !
2006-12-25 20:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by ulkakalhapure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋