I've been with this guy for a year. At first, he was very attentive but lately, it's grown into him suffocating me. We don't live together so if I go to the store and he stops by, he'll go to the store I'm at and pretend as if he ran into me there. He's done this about 6 times. I found out he's been going through my computer to see if I'm talking to anyone online (I'm not) and he asks me a ton of questions about everyday conversations that I've had with friends and even my mom! I planned to see a movie with a friend and he whined that this guy (who is gay!) might try to get me into bed. He's taken my house key and made at least one copy that I know of claiming I told him to do it (I never did) and kept it. I finally got fed up and told him a few days ago that I need a break. He did his usual whining but I didn't budge. I've asked him repeatedly to give me space & privacy but he always goes back to acting the same, usually worse. Am I right to dump him even though it's the holidays?
2006-12-25 00:56:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never cheated on him or given him reason to think so and yes, I got my key back and we're changing the locks soon! Good to know others think he's a bit clingy and I'm not being cynical!
2006-12-25 01:04:31 · update #1
you sound like you have already made that decision! Do what you feel is right!
2006-12-25 00:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright first of all it doesnt matter if the guy is gay, you dont go to the movies w/ other guys when your w/ someone, and if you do, you dont tell your boyfriend even if it is harmless. Second, if its been a year then you obviously care about him, and thats his problem; he cares about you maybe a little too much.
Just go up and tell him that he doesnt need to be going through your stuff and practically stalking you; that if he likes you that much, hed trust you. (or at least tell him to be a little more sneaky about it so it doesnt bother you) Tell him you need some time to yourself in the day, that you care about him, but hes suffocating you. And that as long as he can change what hes doing, that you and him might go somewhere.
(Haha, been there done that. Like...2 weeks ago me and my girlfriend had the same problem but it was her being paranoid not me; and then she wanted to hang out w/ her friend (who I seriously think is gay and most people do) at the movies and I told her she wasnt going to or I might not be there tommorow. So all in all were good now; after I took back what I said about leaving)
Good Luck.
2006-12-25 01:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by I Hate Liberals 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you. He sounds way to clingy for me and even a little paranoid. Unless, you've given him reason to doubt your trustworthiness. However, copying someone's key is scary to me. You need to change that lock! Some guys didn't get the love they needed growing up etc...and when some nice girl such as yourself shows them just a little attention they don't know how to not "hug so tight". Be careful with this guy, he worries me.
2006-12-25 01:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all you described, you already made up your mind. Yes it is the holidays, but I think prolonging the inevitable is even worse. Go with your gut feeling and end it for good.
2006-12-25 01:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Bored With This 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you made a very wise move in ending the relationship. There is something wrong with this man. Seriously, he has some severe insecurity issues. And this is not healthy, it is actually pretty frightening. Good luck to you and God bless****
2006-12-25 01:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes ! big time --- this guy is sick ; he's got a possessive nature beyond belief ( next thing he'll be stalking you )
piss him off quick smart --- this is not a healthy situation to be in --- and i would seriously report this to the police --- for even though a ' crime' hasn't been committed he is genuine trouble with a capital T .
does it really matter what time of year it is ? you need to do something for your own peace of mind . good luck ana merry Xmas
2006-12-25 01:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from personaly experience i've learned to always give it a little more time even after u'r ready to quit. it does sound like he's kinda stalking you even though it's u'r bf. he's overprotective and it sounds like he just loves you. he wants you to be safe and only his, which i can understand, but he's a little paranoid. talk to him ONE more time and tell him if things don't get better and stay that way, you will have to part ways. tell him your concerns and wut you think his point of view it. i did this with my bf and he turned right around. good luck. (=
2006-12-25 01:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by SHANNON. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ..I think staying with this guy will make you lose your self trust ..I would leave him if i were you ..but as it's christmas time ,try to give him another chance but tell him seriously that you need your space and privacy ....
2006-12-25 01:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that what you want is to leave him because you don't really love him and you aren't comfortable with him , All what he do is because he feels so
2006-12-25 01:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by nona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart darling!
2006-12-25 02:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by love_momo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋