Well me and my boyfriend have be seeing each other for awhile .more then 6 months I can count the number of times with been out on one hand .He lives 8 minutes away from where I live all he wants to do is have sex.I've told him about this so many time that I want to go out somewhere besides the movies so we planned to go out last night this was like a christamas outing for like a walk on the beach we planned to go at 7.30 he said for me to meet him at the train station so I did 30 minutes went past no call it was then 5 min past 8 so I called and was like whats happening Im at the staion he was like yeah I was going to call you then Im like its late cus Im at the train station by myself and Im like Im going home he like" you do what you have to do" then I hung up. he didn't call me till and hour later I didn't answer his calls.This was exposed to be something special I looked forward to I cancelled my own plans with my friend to be with him.Know he just called
2006-12-25 00:36:07 · 8 answers · asked by Ashanti 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me acting like nothing happened and eveything cool I told him I don't feel like talking .Then he called me again apologising saying Im sorry that I had to drive my mother around and I had visitors and I had no time for you.I feel that I would be less annoyed if in this relationship we actually did stuff I moved closer to where he lives just to be close to him I used to live and hour away and we didn't see each other just talkin on the phone. Am I being stubborn for still being annoyed or should I get over it.
2006-12-25 00:36:51 · update #1
No. This guy has to show you he is interested in more than just having sex with you for you not to feel USED. That's what a respectful give and take relationship is all about. He obviously needs to show you alot more respect and you need to stop giving him sex all the time and start demanding that he treat you better. If you both agreed this would be a "sex only" relationship that's one thing, but if not and you're unhappy you need to stop and think is this guy worth it? I dated a guy like this onced. I always went to his house. We never went out anywhere except once. We just had sex too and then I started feeling used and said "Hey, why don't we go out sometime and do things". He actually had the nerve to say he "didn't want to move that fast". I walked out that door and never went back. You need to do the same. Good Luck
2006-12-25 00:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you LIKE being lied to and played with, get over it. If you DON'T like it (and I don't know ANYONE who would) you need to either teach him to respect you or sever the connection with him. We teach people how to treat us and he's learned some bad lessons--he probably learned those because you wanted very, very much to have him in your life and so compromised your needs and let him do his "thing" (meaning misbehave toward you). Letting that happen is easy to do because it's a slippery slope. Little things are easy to overlook but the little things get to be bigger things and now he's flat out lying and misleading. Another way of looking at it is that the price of poker (having him in your life) has gotten VERY high and you, very legitimately, are having problems paying the price.
We always need to require that others in our lives honor and respect us and our needs. He isn't doing that is he?
2006-12-25 08:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey -please do not waste another minute on this guy. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't make you feel special. Six months is not that long - just don't wait till it's years before you realize he's not the one because you can't get that time back.
2006-12-25 08:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by joni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stubborn? Sounds like you're you're being used.
Ask your heart and listen to the answer. The heart never lies, unless it's lies you want to hear.
2006-12-25 08:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the guy should of told you that he wasint gonna make it and you shouldint be with someone if they only want you for sex, i say give him another chance and see how it goes
2006-12-25 08:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by stuntowns7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a winner. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-25 08:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by familyaffair_00 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
His a good for nothing brother... Dump him!
2006-12-25 08:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by ~♥OzZ♥~™ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sound like he's in the wrong not you, kick him in the butt for me would ya....Happy Holidays!!!!
2006-12-25 08:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by *CiTsJuStMe* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋