He was involved with this woman for 7 years and towards the end of that 7 years she got pregnant. He found out a year after the little boy was born that, that wasn't his child. She lied to him the whole time and he thought that he was his child; she even named him after him. I got involved with him about 1 year after he found this devastating news out. I've been dating him for a year and a half. I noticed that he started distancing himself from me. I got a wierd vibe, so I did some investigating and got her address and drove by her house, and I found out that he was spending the night at her house. Why would he still want to spend time with this betraying woman. I show him so much love and I am a great sweet person. Why is he stooping so low. She even has a criminal record and he is a police officer.
2006-12-25 00:31:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think he MIGHT be getting "booty calls" with her?
I sent you an email
2006-12-25 00:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had a similar experience with an ex of mine. After 3 years we broke up, and I found out later she was cheating on me. Hurt for a while, but then I realized something: none of it really mattered anymore. Any hold she had over me when we were together didn't count, didn't work. Now if she started any drama, I left. If she complained, I hung up the phone. It was absolutely glorious.
I've learned a lot since then, but I still remember how good that felt. Maybe your guy is enjoying the same thing.
2006-12-25 08:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the first place,why do you give a stuff?-its none of your business as he has ended the relationship with you by his betrayal and other people's relationships are between them and i believe you when you say that you have a sweet nature;you have been given a great big warning sign saying 'stop'
as for the why you are inviting me to give it to you in the kisser-why are you looking to be hurt? some men do it because it is available and they are driven by hormones,possibly she just has an indefinable attraction for him-and -now i am getting really uncomfortable-maybe she does the filthy stuff that maybe you won't do and maybe she shows him sexual appreciation that you don't,on this note the sex therapists suggest that the sex thing can as satisifying between any two people with practice and attention to detail so you can draw consolation from the fact that any such problem can be worked out.begging your pardon,i consider that oral sex is an indispensible part of a relationship but some women find it disgusting.the obvious thing here is that he is a prime position here where he has the attention and love of two women-maybe there is some little thing that works between them etc etc etc.interestingly you don't tell us any of his responses about this matter and that means that you have not asked him for fear of the answer and that tells me that the power balance is in his favour-you could see this situation as you having blundered in on unfinished business
you could try talking to him and find out what is his understanding of relationships and your relationship in particular.i am very worried that you are still continuing and are unable to let go.it would be very important for you to read some of these 'wimmins' books on self esteem and dependency issues and some of the traps that women fall into
there is a difference between sex and a relationship and you should find out what he is offering;he may be off balance and not know what he wants.but he did not come to you to voice his concerns and that does not augur well for the future.you told us that you are sweet but you did not tell us that you are stupid.even if you are the most unattractive woman in the world you deserve all your boyfriend's attention
GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP NOW!
2006-12-25 09:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by p9trick 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I had to guess on his behalf I would probably say that he opened his heart to her and gave her his love. Now that things went totally wrong he is now hurt and probably confused of how things ended the way they have. He is probably still trying to hold onto the love that he felt for her, the love that made him feel so good. The only way for him to get over it is he has to face the truth that love is just not there anymore and it might not have been there at all except for what he put into it. He is heart broken and he is probably trying to mend that heart by mending his relationship that caused his heart to break.
2006-12-25 08:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Duurty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, sounds very much like she has her claws dug in deep.. the longer you are with someone the stronger the bond, and unfortunately the more you will let them do to you. i think he qualifies as having lots of emotional baggage, something for you to look out for in the future
2006-12-25 08:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by JBNH007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know it hurts, but he can't help it, so forget if you can and move on, find someone worthy of you.
2006-12-25 08:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown zone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea he must have deep feelings for her --- i suggest you confront him and leave him --- let him know he has been caught
2006-12-25 08:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because he is STUPID!
2006-12-25 08:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋