a guy has asked me to marry him.
i kept knowing him for a month but at the end i found no chemistry to complete our lives with each other so i refused.
the problem is that now i feel i am not able to love anymore, i am not able to accept the idea of passing in this experience again.
i am now afraid of relations and guys although nothing bad happenned.
what should i do?
2006-12-24 22:53:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the issue here is you...since you didnt believe in the relationship then there was no point, the first basis of your marriage should be your happiness...you should try and fall back into place and fall in love again.
anyways, i'm up for grabs...LOL
happy holidays
2006-12-24 22:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by ceaser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there doen that and it's ok to feel that way. Stop focusing on fear and lack of feeling and let things flow. When you're not looking for the right guy he will come alone. I PROMISE. If you are looking, you'll find the wrong one. I used to get prposed to by every guy I barely got close to. It made me wonder why men threw love around so much. Now I've been with the same guy for over a year and not once has he ever hinted at proposing. He let me know what he wants in life but he is taking things really slow which i appreiciate. When guys become clingy too quick, if you don't reciprocate the feeling...then let him go and let him find the right woman for him. When you find a guy who is serious, and doesn't act clingy...but he lets you know he has interest...that's a man with possibilities. A man who is upfront but isn't trying to rush things. Women want to know they're wanted but we also like to breathe. A man who is a one man woman and takes time is a rare find. Good luck! Give love a chance. Just stop stressing it and time will heal that wound.
2006-12-25 07:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Leigh R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, just because the wrong guy asked you to marry him doesn't mean that when the right one comes along, you won't be afraid.
It is normal to be afraid. You did the right thing to refuse if you know it to be not the right one for you. You should let the guilty feelings drop away. You are perfectly capable of loving the right person, don't worry. When the right one comes along, you won't know what hit you. We tend to have these guys come and go in our lives so that when the real one for us comes along, we tend to really appreciate him.
Have faith, you will know and you will Love. I am now 39 years old and I believe I have finally been sent the love of my life. I have known him for about 2 years as friends and that has helped, now we have just started dating. It hit us both like a ton of bricks. :) In a good way. I am scared senseless, but I am ready. We talk about our fears and we communicate. When your "soul mate" comes along, you will be able to have the greatest relationship of honesty and communication and faith and trust, and Love. Merry Christmas. Don't give up hope. I will pray for you. Hugs to you.
2006-12-25 07:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this one for sure... You feel as if you are unable to love because you haven't met the right one. Most of the time people go looking for love, & it's like when you go shopping for that certain person's present, you know it when you see it right? Same thing in a relationship.... Sounds to me as if you need to take time to find out who you are. I have been divorced now going on 3 years, after a 20 year haul, & I still am unsure of who I am, or what I want. Take your time.... You can love again, that is if you let it happen. That's my thing, letting someone that close to me again, because sometimes love sucks, but sometimes.......
I'm pulling for you, as well as myself...
Just have fun....
Happy Holidays....
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2006-12-25 07:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Linda Jo V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the marriage proposal down. Date other guys. Date as many guys as you can. You cannot meet the right person if you date 1 or 2 people. You need to get out and meet new people, in the very least.
2006-12-25 07:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this guy you're not ready for marriage yet, a month is not long enough to get to know some one. Don't be afraid to be involved with other guys, there a still a few nice guys out there.
2006-12-25 06:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be matured and grow up. One failed relationship does not mean future relationships will failed. Drop the past and look forward to the future. Leave the past behind and move on.
2006-12-25 06:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget that.Give ur life a new start.Break up is not end
2006-12-25 07:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Shavina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 2 the nite club...
just restart...
2006-12-25 06:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Avril 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get over it. or seek proffesional help.
2006-12-25 06:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by genghismctavish 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋