a guy in my class has been expressing his lov for me for7 years.i hadn't given him any + reply.in the mind of mind i consider him good and regard him just as my brother.he and his friends believe that they can make me lov him and they attempted many plans.my friends know this and used to laugh at him whenever he looks at me.a week before he gave me a card saying that he hadn't heard what he expected from me and that he is fed up with my friends.he said he wished to stop everything. i don't know whether it is his another plan but i'm sad if i had hurt him.on the other hand another good looking and smart fellow of my class thinks that i'm in lov with him.in fact there is nothing so.i'm not able to convince him.
i need practical advice in both these cases
2006-12-24 22:47:45 · 28 answers · asked by dollar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-28 00:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by rocky9281 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go for complications. Tell them that you regard them as your true friends and that all and nothing more. Make them understand that you shall get married to a person arranged by your parents and under no circumustances you would like to to against their wishes. If they insist then tell them you will change the college. Don't think much about these love affairs. Concentrate on your studies which should be your prime concern now.
Wish you peace of mind and happiness with lots of good luck in the coming new year with all your family members.
O.K. Now forget everything and concentrate on your studies and make your parents happy.
SCRPatnaik.
2006-12-30 08:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by scr p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being a wishy washy little biatch. You need to be firm with the guy and tell him that you are simply not interested ever. Do not say things like "I think of you as a brother" or anything lame like that. You are just encouraging him. By you not being firm, you have led him on, and now you are sad if you hurt him. Boo hoo. You should not have led him on if you didn't want to hurt him. You made him waste 7 years of his life chasing after you, and now you don't want to be sad?!?!?! What the hell is the matter with you?
Start dating other people. Do what you want, but be firm and direct. It's better to completely shatter a guys hope early on than to string him along for 7 years. Poor guy.
2006-12-25 06:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about others. What do you think is more important. Did you love either of them at any point of time. If yes, think seriously and decide accordingly. If no, just forget it and concentrate on what you are doing. You may start friendship with not only both of them but even some others too and just see how comfortable you feel. Because that's more important & take decision with caution. Don't be in hurry. This is question of ur life.
2006-12-30 05:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rahul D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the first bloke, do you think that you could at least have a relationship with him? You can't force yourself to love someone, that's just cruel to both him and yourself, especially if it falls apart. Talk to him and explain your position, you might become stronger friends at least? The other bloke, he seems a bit arrogant (it's a bit harsh, sorry!) and you should keep an eye on him if he gets a bit, say fresh. Maybe tell him straight, he might get back down to Earth and make a decent friend as well!
2006-12-25 06:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by pte joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are writing here ... simply becoz u care for him and u in ur inner feelings love him , other wise i dont find any reason why u right a such a paragraph of him !!!
And 7 years is quite long him to wait !!! and its the same with u too .. looks to me both of u'll like each other ... and or u are too young to understand and express ur feelings
2006-12-28 05:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years is a long time. I think you should tell them your feelings towards them so that they can make up their minds. If the first guy is a good fellow try him and see. Eventually you will have to choose one of them so I think that you should give both of them a good thinking and then follow your instincts. It always worked for me. Look at their weaknesses and their goodness and if you can live with them choose that guy.
2006-12-25 07:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Maddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ....remmember u r messing up a guy life what ever u plan tell him right now dont waste time or else it may be too late for him to digest if wrong ....2nd thing never give a name of brother to a relation and then try to make it in love relation or dont even think about it its not a healthy relation and its out of rules and our culture ....best thing i can advise u is think on his goods and bads check up does he suit u and see whether he is dare enough to convince ur parents and his for having u in his life ....making life partner means having all relation healthy so go ahead decide fast and be happy ....
2007-01-02 03:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by shiva k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years is a long time! Advise him to move on with his life as you won't be reciprocating. As for the other boy, advise him that there is nothing going on between you and the 7-year wait guy. If he is not convinced, move on and find yourself someone else. Why waste time explaining!
2006-12-25 06:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One guy doesn't like your friends and the other one believes you are a liar. Who needs them. The guy who is expressing his love, he needs to be told that if he doesn't like to be laughed at he should stop acting like a clown. Has he asked you out? If not he is just being childish. If he does ask you on a date it could be a chance to talk to him about it. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-25 06:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For 7 years, that's a long time. Go right now and start a relationship.
2006-12-25 06:55:48 · answer #11 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋