My mother inlaw is driving me and my husband up the wall something shocking. Hubby can't be in the room without wanting to kill her. She says and does stupid stuff all the time. When she rings we don't answer the phone and when she leaves a message on the machine it all rubbish and sometimes she sings. What do I do before I want to kill her?
2006-12-24 22:26:40 · 15 answers · asked by mrsrhowell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if she is sane......kill her with kindness. be over pleasant if she is mean and it will burn at her nerves.
if she is acting goofing, singing, talking about her childhood....then you might want to seek a doctor, she might be experiencing the beginning of alzheimers disease.
I went though 4 years of it with grandma....its terrible to watch and really can burn at your last nerve. if she has it, just realize what she does, she's not doing it to bug you nor does she realize she is bugging you. her mind is melting away, back into being a child and before.
2006-12-24 22:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont give examples of what it is you think is stupid stuff... or tell us what is rubbish in what she says on the answering machine..or why she sings on the answering machine.....
Is she unwell?? Is she lonely? Does she have long term issues or are these actions only recent? Has there been a recent major change in her life?
Perhaps she sings on the answering machine because you wont answer the phone to her...and she is feeling a little frustrated...or annoyed.. and simply wants to annoy you in return...
has your husband always wanted to kill his mother?? Or is this a recent thing for him? You dont say what their relationship was like before this all started or whether it was always like this...
Your mother in law may be suffering from a mental illness or she may be simply wanting her sons attention... and not know how to get it...
You really do need to talk to a medical professional about her behaviour and attitude and how it affects you to find out what is at the root of this problem...
2006-12-25 08:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
The last time I gave an honest answer on this one, I got my answer deleted as a "community guideline violation", and lost 12 points, so I won't tell you what you should really do.
May I suggest giving her lots to drink, or possibly finding some valium, tranxene, or xanax, and mixing it into her food??
You could have her telephone number blocked by the phone company, and then, if she ever asks you about it in person, tell her you have no idea what she's talking about??
Madness is annoying, but, look on the bright side -- maybe it's hereditary, and you'll get to go through it all over again with your Husband in 30 years....??
Namaste, and Happy Holidays,
--Tom
2006-12-24 22:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she's annoying, and specific, this is strange that she's nonetheless calling you. you do no longer ought to spend various time talking to her, and you do no longer ought to share own info along with her--basically be sort and polite. Ask her questions approximately her existence and communicate approximately well-known matters (like the climate) for a couple of minutes. Then say you ought to pass. If she will't dig out any own tips from you, probability is the calls is basically no longer extraordinarily interesting for her and could path off over the years.
2016-11-23 16:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think driving us crazy is part of a mother in law's job description. Remember that you do not have to love your mother in law, or be friends with her. However, you have to respect her as a person. No matter what, she is the mother of your husband. For nothing else, but giving birth to the one you love, should count for something.
I believe that many times people are not driving us crazy, but we are driving ourselves crazy. Maybe you are making assumptions about how your inlaw should behave or be? No one has the right to make such assumptions about another person.
Try to accept your mother in law the way she is. keep things formal between you, and try not to judge her. She might be your chance to learn a bit about yourself, and to learn to accept people the way they are.
Good luck.
2006-12-25 00:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by hmmminterrresting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first question where all the hostility from you and your husband originates! I had a mother in law that I did not get along with, but I never wanted to kill her!
2006-12-24 22:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by ball_courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her. You and your hubby should speak with her and find out if she needs attention. Perhaps she is lonely and wants companion. Be more understanding and patient with the elderly. Don't forget that she is afterall your hubby's mom and your in-law. Try to work things out and I'm sure you will all enjoy peace and harmony at home!
2006-12-24 22:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could pay someone to make friends with her. Or keep asking her to do things for you, or loan you money. Maybe that would slow her down. If she is bugging you constantly she may be lonely. Seriously, if this behaviour is just a recent event, she may need medical attention. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-24 22:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to accept her as she is, and try to be more tolerant. There must be at least one redeeming quality that you can find in her, she did produce your husband after all. Sounds like she may just be lonely. Good luck!
2006-12-24 23:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you talk to her, tell her to listen to this crap that some lunatic is leaving on your machine. Then tell her you're calling the police and reporting these harrassing calls.
2006-12-24 23:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋